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Lied, got the job, then forced to come clean
So the title says it all. I lied on my resume; fluffed a job and then added an entirely fictional job to extend my experience. But I nailed the interview and got the job, as the last few years of my experience are accurate and I really have been operating at the level I said I had. I even nailed the technical portion, there weren’t any questions I was asked that I was stumped on or couldn’t answer. I know the stuff and I can execute in the role (Senior in the tech industry) as I have been for the last several years.
Then came employment verification. I’ve never been forced to verify my employment history before, not like this. No company has gone this far to verify my employment in a background check. Basically in order to complete the background check, I had to supply all the places I’d worked for the past 7 years and include a W-2, pay stub, or 1099, which was fine. For 6 years and 9 months. But the other 3 months bled into that 3 years of completely fabricated experience. While I was in a technical role and going to a technical school, it wasn’t the technical experience I had on my resume and spoke to vaguely in the initial interview. I am also very confident that experience was used to justify the very competitive compensation package I have already accepted; basically I had 9 years of exp. on my resume, but only 6 of it was really applicable while the last 3 was a total lie.
I emailed the HR person I have been working with and spelled out the discrepancies in frank honesty, without adding any extra info as to why or embellishing on the facts. I also stated that I would be willing to speak to any of the experience on my resume as well to prove the rest of it was legit. Afterward, I completed the background verification honestly and have just finished up the onboarding documentation they already forwarded to me.
I just don’t know how to feel or what to think because I’ve never had this happen before, and I guess I’ve learned a valuable lesson here, but it’s so hard to get anywhere without a ridiculous amount of experience. So far I’ve been able to greatly exceed expectations and execute far in advance on deliverables and projects, so I’m confident I could do the same here, I just don’t know how common this is or if I did the right thing in being up front before the background check came back with discrepancies.
Thoughts?
TLDR; I lied on my resume to get a job, then after I accepted the offer I came clean to appease the background check gods, but I don’t know what’s gonna happen next.
Edits, cause some good points came up that I want to address:
1. The specific company I used had undergone an acquisition in 2020, the year my real experience began. An acquisition in most cases means the HR trail is unrecoverable, which I largely relied on. No other company I have worked for since then has cared to verify it. Not saying that’s right or it’s even smart, but it’s just the facts.
2. I’m not “skating by” on anything other than a misrepresentation of my early career. Everything else after that is quantifiable, accurate, and in most cases pivotal to the success of the businesses I’d worked for thereafter. Again, not saying it’s smart or right, but it’s a fact.
3. This wasn’t just a regular background check or employment history verification, it was a situation wherein a lie on my resume would immediately pop as a discrepancy, meaning a false submission of any kind would guarantee they’d see it. In my opinion, fessing up to this before they see it on the background check is a better course of action than to just hope they don’t notice it. Best case, they don’t give a shit and just have to modify the offer, worst case is that they rescind my offer entirely.
4. I know full well this wasn’t a good idea; it never has been, and it never will be, but some roles you can quickly excel in this way. My mistake was continuing with the lie. If I had been honest and forth coming from the beginning starting with this role, it may have turned out an entirely different scenario. But to all of your points, this is damaging to my trust with them and the business realistically has no expectation to move forward, which I anticipate. Just sucks.
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So the title says it all. I lied on my resume; fluffed a job and then added an entirely fictional job to extend my experience. But I nailed the interview and got the job, as the last few years of my experience are accurate and I really have been operating at the level I said I had. I even nailed the technical portion, there weren’t any questions I was asked that I was stumped on or couldn’t answer. I know the stuff and I can execute in the role (Senior in the tech industry) as I have been for the last several years.
Then came employment verification. I’ve never been forced to verify my employment history before, not like this. No company has gone this far to verify my employment in a background check. Basically in order to complete the background check, I had to supply all the places I’d worked for the past 7 years and include a W-2, pay stub, or 1099, which was fine. For 6 years and 9 months. But the other 3 months bled into that 3 years of completely fabricated experience. While I was in a technical role and going to a technical school, it wasn’t the technical experience I had on my resume and spoke to vaguely in the initial interview. I am also very confident that experience was used to justify the very competitive compensation package I have already accepted; basically I had 9 years of exp. on my resume, but only 6 of it was really applicable while the last 3 was a total lie.
I emailed the HR person I have been working with and spelled out the discrepancies in frank honesty, without adding any extra info as to why or embellishing on the facts. I also stated that I would be willing to speak to any of the experience on my resume as well to prove the rest of it was legit. Afterward, I completed the background verification honestly and have just finished up the onboarding documentation they already forwarded to me.
I just don’t know how to feel or what to think because I’ve never had this happen before, and I guess I’ve learned a valuable lesson here, but it’s so hard to get anywhere without a ridiculous amount of experience. So far I’ve been able to greatly exceed expectations and execute far in advance on deliverables and projects, so I’m confident I could do the same here, I just don’t know how common this is or if I did the right thing in being up front before the background check came back with discrepancies.
Thoughts?
TLDR; I lied on my resume to get a job, then after I accepted the offer I came clean to appease the background check gods, but I don’t know what’s gonna happen next.
Edits, cause some good points came up that I want to address:
1. The specific company I used had undergone an acquisition in 2020, the year my real experience began. An acquisition in most cases means the HR trail is unrecoverable, which I largely relied on. No other company I have worked for since then has cared to verify it. Not saying that’s right or it’s even smart, but it’s just the facts.
2. I’m not “skating by” on anything other than a misrepresentation of my early career. Everything else after that is quantifiable, accurate, and in most cases pivotal to the success of the businesses I’d worked for thereafter. Again, not saying it’s smart or right, but it’s a fact.
3. This wasn’t just a regular background check or employment history verification, it was a situation wherein a lie on my resume would immediately pop as a discrepancy, meaning a false submission of any kind would guarantee they’d see it. In my opinion, fessing up to this before they see it on the background check is a better course of action than to just hope they don’t notice it. Best case, they don’t give a shit and just have to modify the offer, worst case is that they rescind my offer entirely.
4. I know full well this wasn’t a good idea; it never has been, and it never will be, but some roles you can quickly excel in this way. My mistake was continuing with the lie. If I had been honest and forth coming from the beginning starting with this role, it may have turned out an entirely different scenario. But to all of your points, this is damaging to my trust with them and the business realistically has no expectation to move forward, which I anticipate. Just sucks.
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Company doesn't do written offers?
I just interviewed with a company and they seemed hesitant but made me a verbal offer after negotiating the salary. I was waiting for a written offer, then the third party recruiter called me and said "Actually, they don't do offer letters. They want you to call them and confirm verbally." I asked if they had a summary of the benefits that I could review, and he said "why don't you email them and copy me in the email, ask them to confirm and see if they can send you that?"
I emailed them saying I'm looking to accept the offer of 70k and asked to send me a summary of the benefits and details for me to review. They replied back saying: "The hours are 9 to 6, please come in at 10 on your first day. HR will review the benefits with you as part of onboarding" and didn't confirm or acknowledge anything else.
Am I overthinking this or is this a bit strange? There were some other things that seemed a bit off to me, like asking me if I could resign at my current job without notice since "They have other team members so you can just leave them and let them handle it." Just kind of giving me weird vibes and I'm thinking maybe I shouldn't move forward with this.
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I just interviewed with a company and they seemed hesitant but made me a verbal offer after negotiating the salary. I was waiting for a written offer, then the third party recruiter called me and said "Actually, they don't do offer letters. They want you to call them and confirm verbally." I asked if they had a summary of the benefits that I could review, and he said "why don't you email them and copy me in the email, ask them to confirm and see if they can send you that?"
I emailed them saying I'm looking to accept the offer of 70k and asked to send me a summary of the benefits and details for me to review. They replied back saying: "The hours are 9 to 6, please come in at 10 on your first day. HR will review the benefits with you as part of onboarding" and didn't confirm or acknowledge anything else.
Am I overthinking this or is this a bit strange? There were some other things that seemed a bit off to me, like asking me if I could resign at my current job without notice since "They have other team members so you can just leave them and let them handle it." Just kind of giving me weird vibes and I'm thinking maybe I shouldn't move forward with this.
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I gave my notice today and management is throwing a fit
So, here I (31F) go. It’s more a post to see if I am an idiot or unfair or whatever.
I have a university degree in translation and speak 6 languages. Started working when I was 23.
I’ve been at the company for almost 5 years. From a coordinating role I went to a sales role about 1,5 years ago. It was a horizontal move. I’ve been very good at my job
The ‘sales role’ has turned out to be more of a customer care role. Our job title says ‘Sales Advisor’, reality is that I am constantly listening to people who are mad at the accounting department, at this, at some other department… There is not a lot of sales.
In January I took over a very important and difficult to manage customer portfolio. We doubled our numbers so basically I am doing the work of 2 people. I can leave on holiday with 4 on-going cases and come back with 50. I did overtime, worked on weekends…
At the same time, the supervisor that I had liked me a lot but he was honestly shitty to my team. Example: ‘You guys are just advisors’, ‘It’s a good thing person A didn’t get the promotion otherwise you would all feel so superior’.
When I asked for a development plan to become a sales manager in a few years, he told me ‘You don’t need that for sales’, so I started one myself and asked HR. They also scheduled a development center to see my competences etc.
Over the summer, I felt more and more discouraged, work was not great, I felt stressed a lot, stressed about my cases, stressed about having to pick up the phone constantly…
At the start of this month, I got someone from the competition asking me if I wanted to apply for a Sales Manager job in their company. I went in expecting nothing, and after a few rounds got the job.
I doubted a lot cause my current employer was doing the development plan etc for me, so I told my N+2 about it. I told him: ‘Listen, I don’t want more money and I don’t want a new job in a few months or a year, I just have a few questions: 1. Why is no one from my team evolving? 2. how do you see my development ?
Immediately it went to: ‘I know people your generation are impatient to grow, but patience is key’. ‘The grass sometimes is greener on the other side but sometimes it isn’t’, ‘We have 5-6 good people on the team (while later they told me I was a top performer)’. ‘We have bad people on the team but if we fire them we have a person less so…’ ‘You had a good year, we are satisfied’ ‘we can’t stop you’
A few days passed and I had my assesment feedback which was good, but nothing about our earlier conversation. After long thoughts I realised that I had to try, so I resigned.
It is as if I dropped a bomb or set the office on fire. N+2 has been telling other management members (one of them being a very good friend which is how I know) that they are completely shocked and blindsided. That I am too ambitious and I should have waited some more years.
But the worst: they were comparing me to some guy who left us for the competition and was fired after 2 months.
On the other hand, N+2 and other managers are telling each other how f\*\*\*\*\* they are with me leaving and don’t want to tell their manager.
My question is: How do I ride this out? They will blame me for this and I will have to pretend to be kind to them for the following 2 months
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So, here I (31F) go. It’s more a post to see if I am an idiot or unfair or whatever.
I have a university degree in translation and speak 6 languages. Started working when I was 23.
I’ve been at the company for almost 5 years. From a coordinating role I went to a sales role about 1,5 years ago. It was a horizontal move. I’ve been very good at my job
The ‘sales role’ has turned out to be more of a customer care role. Our job title says ‘Sales Advisor’, reality is that I am constantly listening to people who are mad at the accounting department, at this, at some other department… There is not a lot of sales.
In January I took over a very important and difficult to manage customer portfolio. We doubled our numbers so basically I am doing the work of 2 people. I can leave on holiday with 4 on-going cases and come back with 50. I did overtime, worked on weekends…
At the same time, the supervisor that I had liked me a lot but he was honestly shitty to my team. Example: ‘You guys are just advisors’, ‘It’s a good thing person A didn’t get the promotion otherwise you would all feel so superior’.
When I asked for a development plan to become a sales manager in a few years, he told me ‘You don’t need that for sales’, so I started one myself and asked HR. They also scheduled a development center to see my competences etc.
Over the summer, I felt more and more discouraged, work was not great, I felt stressed a lot, stressed about my cases, stressed about having to pick up the phone constantly…
At the start of this month, I got someone from the competition asking me if I wanted to apply for a Sales Manager job in their company. I went in expecting nothing, and after a few rounds got the job.
I doubted a lot cause my current employer was doing the development plan etc for me, so I told my N+2 about it. I told him: ‘Listen, I don’t want more money and I don’t want a new job in a few months or a year, I just have a few questions: 1. Why is no one from my team evolving? 2. how do you see my development ?
Immediately it went to: ‘I know people your generation are impatient to grow, but patience is key’. ‘The grass sometimes is greener on the other side but sometimes it isn’t’, ‘We have 5-6 good people on the team (while later they told me I was a top performer)’. ‘We have bad people on the team but if we fire them we have a person less so…’ ‘You had a good year, we are satisfied’ ‘we can’t stop you’
A few days passed and I had my assesment feedback which was good, but nothing about our earlier conversation. After long thoughts I realised that I had to try, so I resigned.
It is as if I dropped a bomb or set the office on fire. N+2 has been telling other management members (one of them being a very good friend which is how I know) that they are completely shocked and blindsided. That I am too ambitious and I should have waited some more years.
But the worst: they were comparing me to some guy who left us for the competition and was fired after 2 months.
On the other hand, N+2 and other managers are telling each other how f\*\*\*\*\* they are with me leaving and don’t want to tell their manager.
My question is: How do I ride this out? They will blame me for this and I will have to pretend to be kind to them for the following 2 months
#business
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