Families with different rules My wife, kids and I recently…
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Families with different rules
My wife, kids and I recently went out for dinner with another couple and their kids, who are a similar age as ours (elementary school). When it came time to order, I asked the waitress what kind of juice they have for the kids. The other mom, our friend, said we should not be ordering juice for our kids because it would mean their kids will want juice, which she doesn’t allow since she believes it will ruin their appetite. My wife didn’t want to argue with our friends and so she agreed to skip the juices.
In general, we have no rules in our family about not allowing our kids to have juice with dinner (we just draw the line at sodas). I find it troubling that another parent would impose their rules on our kids just because of how it might influence hers. Shouldn’t she be able to set her own rules and explain to her kids that each family’s rules are different?
It’s worth noting that this other parent, in my opinion often uses controlling behavior to get her way. I don’t think it’s intentional but more of a habit and her way of trying to make plans she thinks will be good for everyone.
I’m considering addressing the situation next time we all go out and saying upfront that we don’t feel comfortable being told what to order for our kids. How should I approach this situation? Am I making too big a deal?
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My wife, kids and I recently went out for dinner with another couple and their kids, who are a similar age as ours (elementary school). When it came time to order, I asked the waitress what kind of juice they have for the kids. The other mom, our friend, said we should not be ordering juice for our kids because it would mean their kids will want juice, which she doesn’t allow since she believes it will ruin their appetite. My wife didn’t want to argue with our friends and so she agreed to skip the juices.
In general, we have no rules in our family about not allowing our kids to have juice with dinner (we just draw the line at sodas). I find it troubling that another parent would impose their rules on our kids just because of how it might influence hers. Shouldn’t she be able to set her own rules and explain to her kids that each family’s rules are different?
It’s worth noting that this other parent, in my opinion often uses controlling behavior to get her way. I don’t think it’s intentional but more of a habit and her way of trying to make plans she thinks will be good for everyone.
I’m considering addressing the situation next time we all go out and saying upfront that we don’t feel comfortable being told what to order for our kids. How should I approach this situation? Am I making too big a deal?
#conversation
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