LPT: If you need to have an awkward conversation with…
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LPT: If you need to have an awkward conversation with someone, do not start with "we need to talk"
For a lot of people, “we need to talk” does not sound serious and mature. It sounds like pure dread. Their mind immediately goes to the worst-case scenario, and now they are anxious before the conversation even starts.
A much better approach is to be clear and specific.
Examples:
* “Hey, can we talk later about the budget for the trip?”
* “When you have a minute, I want to talk about what happened earlier so we can clear the air.”
* “Can we chat tonight about scheduling? Nothing bad, I just want to figure something out.”
It still communicates that a conversation is coming, but it does not create hours of unnecessary panic.
This has helped me a lot at work and in personal relationships. People respond way better when they are informed without being alarmed.
Basically: clarity lowers anxiety and vagueness raises it.
It seems small, but it makes a big difference.
#entertainment
For a lot of people, “we need to talk” does not sound serious and mature. It sounds like pure dread. Their mind immediately goes to the worst-case scenario, and now they are anxious before the conversation even starts.
A much better approach is to be clear and specific.
Examples:
* “Hey, can we talk later about the budget for the trip?”
* “When you have a minute, I want to talk about what happened earlier so we can clear the air.”
* “Can we chat tonight about scheduling? Nothing bad, I just want to figure something out.”
It still communicates that a conversation is coming, but it does not create hours of unnecessary panic.
This has helped me a lot at work and in personal relationships. People respond way better when they are informed without being alarmed.
Basically: clarity lowers anxiety and vagueness raises it.
It seems small, but it makes a big difference.
#entertainment
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