So my(27) girlfriend (31)of 3 years had my phone and I forgot to clean it out she ended up stumbling on my porn history and calling me out in it. Like literally clicked something graphic and showed it to me before i realized what was going on. She was immediately upset as she had no idea I watched porn. The problem she didnt know is I watch gay porn. The picture she turned my phone around and showed me was literally 2 men. This very much upset her and she has broke down crying probably 20 times since yesterday when this happen. She has no idea I've experimented with men in the past a couple times. I've always been faithful to her and our sex life is decent. It has its ups and downs. Currently we've been down and haven't had sex in about a month. Then her seeing this has her screaming at me "im in the closet and that's why I can't sleep with her" because im watching porn, and I want a man. Which isn't true at all. I dont think my porn preference should make everything so black and white about me although I can see why she's shocked. Especially if she knew I experimented in the past and was still watching gay porn while we weren't sleeping together. But our relationship has had problems for why our sex life has been up and down. What should I say to her? I love her and dont wana lose her, I know she's in disbelief and probably nothing i say can change what shes made up in her mind. Even this morning she shared something on Facebook saying "some men can't make it work with women because their soul mate is a man" ... like literally attacking me online, although not mentioning me. Hmm any recomendations? #lifestyle source