Marrying a Pakistani man So my potential (Pakistani) 24M &…
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Marrying a Pakistani man
So my potential (Pakistani) 24M & me (Sri Lankan) 29F met on Muzz online 5 months ago and we connected well and fell for each other.
He is currently a student and doing his masters degree in a different country. After few weeks of speaking he wanted to marry me, he initiated to speak to my father first and wanted to get his approval on our Nikkah.
My father spoke to him and told him, he’ll do some background checks up on him first before agreeing to the marriage. The background checks came back clear, that he’s coming from a respected family and he did provide my dad with all his IDs, qualifications and his unmarried certificate.
But before confirming everything my dad and I wanted to meet him first. Unfortunately my dad didn’t get approval from work leave, so I resorted to travelling alone to meet him.
After meeting him I realised, he was just like the way I knew him online, very polite, made me feel comfortable, kind and respectful person. So I have decided I’m happy to move forward and told my parents that he’s indeed a great guy.
However there’s only one thing that’s bothering me, he doesn’t want to tell his mum or the rest of the family about us getting married, but he did tell his father about us wanting to get married and his father has approved for our Nikkah.
When I asked him why he doesn’t want to tell his mum about us? His reasons were that his mum will emotionally manipulate him and guilt trip him into not marrying me as I’m not a Pakistani girl.
He did tell me, few years down the line, he might tell his mum about our marriage until then I’ll be kept as a secret from his mum and not travel to Pakistan until she finds out about us.
For context I’ve been previously married before and older than him by 5 years. But he’s very mature and wise for his age, thus I don’t mind the age gap between us.
When I asked him why he wanted to marry me? He simply told me his heart favoured me and felt that I was the right one for him.
I just want to know if this is something normal that does happen within the Pakistani community? Do sons hide their marriage from their family if they marry a non - Pakistani girl or is this a potential red flag and should I be worried?
I do love him and I know his intentions are pure for me. But I just wanted to clarify on this.
Btw I don’t know how this caste system works in Pakistan, but he comes from a caste called Malik.. are they known to be good people?
#current_events #local
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So my potential (Pakistani) 24M & me (Sri Lankan) 29F met on Muzz online 5 months ago and we connected well and fell for each other.
He is currently a student and doing his masters degree in a different country. After few weeks of speaking he wanted to marry me, he initiated to speak to my father first and wanted to get his approval on our Nikkah.
My father spoke to him and told him, he’ll do some background checks up on him first before agreeing to the marriage. The background checks came back clear, that he’s coming from a respected family and he did provide my dad with all his IDs, qualifications and his unmarried certificate.
But before confirming everything my dad and I wanted to meet him first. Unfortunately my dad didn’t get approval from work leave, so I resorted to travelling alone to meet him.
After meeting him I realised, he was just like the way I knew him online, very polite, made me feel comfortable, kind and respectful person. So I have decided I’m happy to move forward and told my parents that he’s indeed a great guy.
However there’s only one thing that’s bothering me, he doesn’t want to tell his mum or the rest of the family about us getting married, but he did tell his father about us wanting to get married and his father has approved for our Nikkah.
When I asked him why he doesn’t want to tell his mum about us? His reasons were that his mum will emotionally manipulate him and guilt trip him into not marrying me as I’m not a Pakistani girl.
He did tell me, few years down the line, he might tell his mum about our marriage until then I’ll be kept as a secret from his mum and not travel to Pakistan until she finds out about us.
For context I’ve been previously married before and older than him by 5 years. But he’s very mature and wise for his age, thus I don’t mind the age gap between us.
When I asked him why he wanted to marry me? He simply told me his heart favoured me and felt that I was the right one for him.
I just want to know if this is something normal that does happen within the Pakistani community? Do sons hide their marriage from their family if they marry a non - Pakistani girl or is this a potential red flag and should I be worried?
I do love him and I know his intentions are pure for me. But I just wanted to clarify on this.
Btw I don’t know how this caste system works in Pakistan, but he comes from a caste called Malik.. are they known to be good people?
#current_events #local
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