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Dating in the wild
I have terrible luck with apps (I refuse to pay), so I approach women “in the wild.”
I usually do things alone: cinema, theaters shows, travel, restaurants. I was at the latter when by chance a friend walked in with a group of his friends. He sat with me for a few minutes and noticed a waitress who apparently kept looking in the direction of my table. I hadn’t noticed her glances but I did once he pointed it out. Wasting no time, I walked toward her and asked if we knew each other (it wasn’t a line, I was genuinely asking). She said “no, but I’d like to” and we exchanged numbers. Our first date is tonight. There’s so much that gets lost in apps. Stolen glances, smiles, postures, voice, smell; all of these things make a difference in how people interact. I encourage more people to go forth to try their luck “in the wild.” No one is always successful and dealing with rejection is a valuable life skill.
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I have terrible luck with apps (I refuse to pay), so I approach women “in the wild.”
I usually do things alone: cinema, theaters shows, travel, restaurants. I was at the latter when by chance a friend walked in with a group of his friends. He sat with me for a few minutes and noticed a waitress who apparently kept looking in the direction of my table. I hadn’t noticed her glances but I did once he pointed it out. Wasting no time, I walked toward her and asked if we knew each other (it wasn’t a line, I was genuinely asking). She said “no, but I’d like to” and we exchanged numbers. Our first date is tonight. There’s so much that gets lost in apps. Stolen glances, smiles, postures, voice, smell; all of these things make a difference in how people interact. I encourage more people to go forth to try their luck “in the wild.” No one is always successful and dealing with rejection is a valuable life skill.
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A reminder that it’s the cuffing season
A reminder for everyone that it’s a cuffing season: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuffing\_season
That means that a lot of people will be looking for a short term relationships just to cuddle during long cold nights.
Also it’s Christmas in 2.5 months. If you start a relationship now, then you might meet your partner’s relatives very soon.
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A reminder for everyone that it’s a cuffing season: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuffing\_season
That means that a lot of people will be looking for a short term relationships just to cuddle during long cold nights.
Also it’s Christmas in 2.5 months. If you start a relationship now, then you might meet your partner’s relatives very soon.
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Make it make sense
Me (F,42) went on a first date last night after about a week of texting with M,38. He kept saying how excited he was to meet me, was nice and respectful via texts. Date went decently - I didn’t think he was super attractive but honestly I was willing to give him a fair shot and see. He mentioned this was the first time he was using apps ever - no major reason besides “I do better in person”. He suggested an Italian spot, he paid. He asked if we could get dessert after - we shared one (I paid). While we’re eating dessert, he mentioned he was surprised “someone like me” swiped right on him and I asked him to say more - he said he didn’t think he was conventionally attractive etc. and he basically hinted very strongly I was out of his league. I didn’t feel like there was a good response here, so I said something like oh, interesting you feel that way, I enjoyed our texts and made a quasi joke about how he made no grammatical errors which was a big plus!
He then asked if he could walk me home. He said had the best time and would love to see me again. I mentioned I was away next week but would love to get together once I was back.
He did make one or two comments like even if we never see each other again, you’ll remember me for this awesome joke or the pasta or the x - like he said that 2-3 times.
Today morning , he texts me saying he had an amazing time and would love to hang again. But he wants to keep it platonic - would I be into that.
Like what LOL. I mean - I am truly not heartbroken, he was ok not amazing but to me, the fact that he’d drop all these dating signals to then ask for a platonic relationship seems whack! Would love to know what is going through his head and I may even ask but honestly it’s coming from a place of curiosity vs any bitter feelings whatsoever.
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Me (F,42) went on a first date last night after about a week of texting with M,38. He kept saying how excited he was to meet me, was nice and respectful via texts. Date went decently - I didn’t think he was super attractive but honestly I was willing to give him a fair shot and see. He mentioned this was the first time he was using apps ever - no major reason besides “I do better in person”. He suggested an Italian spot, he paid. He asked if we could get dessert after - we shared one (I paid). While we’re eating dessert, he mentioned he was surprised “someone like me” swiped right on him and I asked him to say more - he said he didn’t think he was conventionally attractive etc. and he basically hinted very strongly I was out of his league. I didn’t feel like there was a good response here, so I said something like oh, interesting you feel that way, I enjoyed our texts and made a quasi joke about how he made no grammatical errors which was a big plus!
He then asked if he could walk me home. He said had the best time and would love to see me again. I mentioned I was away next week but would love to get together once I was back.
He did make one or two comments like even if we never see each other again, you’ll remember me for this awesome joke or the pasta or the x - like he said that 2-3 times.
Today morning , he texts me saying he had an amazing time and would love to hang again. But he wants to keep it platonic - would I be into that.
Like what LOL. I mean - I am truly not heartbroken, he was ok not amazing but to me, the fact that he’d drop all these dating signals to then ask for a platonic relationship seems whack! Would love to know what is going through his head and I may even ask but honestly it’s coming from a place of curiosity vs any bitter feelings whatsoever.
#relationships