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12 year old - we have tried every sport
Wondering if others have any advice. My son is 12 and not the most athletic. We have tried every sport but he does not excel in any of them. He does not practice on his own and it is a battle to get him out after work. He loves reading, trains, Minecraft, light bike riding. He does well in school.
My concern is that he has a bit of delusion about his abilities. He played soccer for 5 years but he never went after the ball. The other kids shunned him. At 9, we quit because it was a social negative as many kids took it seriously. He has played basketball for 7 years but barely gets touches because lacks solid scoring and dribbling skills. He adds little to the team and again, kids shun him. He never gets the ball and not friendly towards him. He gets down but I explain that he would need to practice more but as long as having fun then he should keep playing. Deep down, I don't like the social aspect. Coaches and boys are drawn to good players. Bad players are social misfits. He tells me today that he wants to try out for middle school (highly competitive with giant kids). I told him straight that he won't make the team. I told him proud that he has ambition but I don't know how to get him to connect the dots without hurting his fragile self-esteem. Advice?
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Wondering if others have any advice. My son is 12 and not the most athletic. We have tried every sport but he does not excel in any of them. He does not practice on his own and it is a battle to get him out after work. He loves reading, trains, Minecraft, light bike riding. He does well in school.
My concern is that he has a bit of delusion about his abilities. He played soccer for 5 years but he never went after the ball. The other kids shunned him. At 9, we quit because it was a social negative as many kids took it seriously. He has played basketball for 7 years but barely gets touches because lacks solid scoring and dribbling skills. He adds little to the team and again, kids shun him. He never gets the ball and not friendly towards him. He gets down but I explain that he would need to practice more but as long as having fun then he should keep playing. Deep down, I don't like the social aspect. Coaches and boys are drawn to good players. Bad players are social misfits. He tells me today that he wants to try out for middle school (highly competitive with giant kids). I told him straight that he won't make the team. I told him proud that he has ambition but I don't know how to get him to connect the dots without hurting his fragile self-esteem. Advice?
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Wife constantly yelling at our 3yo over eating and sleeping, how do I handle this?
My wife is a full-time stay-at-home mum looking after our 3-year-old son. She's decided to co-sleep with him and not vaccinate him, which means he's missing out on childcare/kindergarten due to vaccination requirements in our country.
As a result, she's with him almost 24/7, and I understand how overwhelming that can be. I do contribute at my fullest capacity to look after our son.
However, she screams at our son almost every day over things like not sleeping on time, refusing meals, or not following instructions.
Whenever I try to step in and remind her not to yell over these little things, it creates tension between us. I genuinely feel that the constant yelling is more damaging to our son's emotional well-being than him occasionally skipping a meal or sleeping late.
I know my wife loves our son and is doing her best, but I'm worried about the long-term impact this might have on him.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you approach this with your partner without making them feel attacked? How do you support an overwhelmed spouse while also protecting your child from constant yelling?
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My wife is a full-time stay-at-home mum looking after our 3-year-old son. She's decided to co-sleep with him and not vaccinate him, which means he's missing out on childcare/kindergarten due to vaccination requirements in our country.
As a result, she's with him almost 24/7, and I understand how overwhelming that can be. I do contribute at my fullest capacity to look after our son.
However, she screams at our son almost every day over things like not sleeping on time, refusing meals, or not following instructions.
Whenever I try to step in and remind her not to yell over these little things, it creates tension between us. I genuinely feel that the constant yelling is more damaging to our son's emotional well-being than him occasionally skipping a meal or sleeping late.
I know my wife loves our son and is doing her best, but I'm worried about the long-term impact this might have on him.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you approach this with your partner without making them feel attacked? How do you support an overwhelmed spouse while also protecting your child from constant yelling?
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Car nap emergency
It is 6:20 pm right now. My 5 year old son fell asleep in the car ride over to his brother’s tutoring. The tutoring gets out at 7. Dad is traveling for work so I had to bring all the tag alongs with me for brother’s tutoring.
He is still asleep.
Do I:
1. wake him up, knowing he’ll still have over 30 minutes of waiting
2. Let him sleep, knowing this is the devil’s nap?
His 7 year old brother is also here, happily and quietly entertaining himself, if that matters!
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It is 6:20 pm right now. My 5 year old son fell asleep in the car ride over to his brother’s tutoring. The tutoring gets out at 7. Dad is traveling for work so I had to bring all the tag alongs with me for brother’s tutoring.
He is still asleep.
Do I:
1. wake him up, knowing he’ll still have over 30 minutes of waiting
2. Let him sleep, knowing this is the devil’s nap?
His 7 year old brother is also here, happily and quietly entertaining himself, if that matters!
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