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How do you give your quieter child enough attention when their sibling always needs someth
My older kid is happy doing their own thing and rarely asks for help. My younger one will come find me over every missing toy, snack, argument, whatever. Neither is doing anything wrong, but some evenings I realize I’ve barely had a full conversation with my older child.
Yesterday I was scrolling on my phone when my older kid came over to show me a comic they’d drawn. We got through about half of it before their sibling called for help in the bathroom. I said I’d be right back, then got caught up in a couple of other things. Later I saw the comic on the table and remembered we hadn’t finished. I went and asked to see the rest, and they were happy to show me. It bothered me that I’d forgotten, though. I try to make time for just us but I’m noticing how often I interrupt our conversations because the younger one wants something. Sometimes it genuinely can’t wait. Other times I’m halfway through looking for a toy before it occurs to me that I could have said I’m busy. My older kid doesn’t complain, so it’s easy to assume they’re fine with it.
I don’t want to turn every evening into a guilt-driven special activity, either. Mostly I want to get better at giving them my attention during normal, boring days. What has actually helped in your house, especially when you’re the only parent home with both kids?
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My older kid is happy doing their own thing and rarely asks for help. My younger one will come find me over every missing toy, snack, argument, whatever. Neither is doing anything wrong, but some evenings I realize I’ve barely had a full conversation with my older child.
Yesterday I was scrolling on my phone when my older kid came over to show me a comic they’d drawn. We got through about half of it before their sibling called for help in the bathroom. I said I’d be right back, then got caught up in a couple of other things. Later I saw the comic on the table and remembered we hadn’t finished. I went and asked to see the rest, and they were happy to show me. It bothered me that I’d forgotten, though. I try to make time for just us but I’m noticing how often I interrupt our conversations because the younger one wants something. Sometimes it genuinely can’t wait. Other times I’m halfway through looking for a toy before it occurs to me that I could have said I’m busy. My older kid doesn’t complain, so it’s easy to assume they’re fine with it.
I don’t want to turn every evening into a guilt-driven special activity, either. Mostly I want to get better at giving them my attention during normal, boring days. What has actually helped in your house, especially when you’re the only parent home with both kids?
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My child keeps missing core Math and English class because of speech class
I am very pissed, please advice me!
My child has been in speech since first grade and one issue i have had is that, the speech teacher keeps pulling her out for speech session right in the middle of a maths or english class. This to me doesnt help the child who is struggling with school in the first place.
Its really hard for my child to grasp something, so she needs to be in class for her to really get what the teacher is teaching. But on speech days which is twice a week, they will pull my child out of class for speech class. Its so fustrating, because when i am teaching her at home, i get to see side notes of incomplete work from her teacher, meaning she wasnt able to finish her work because speech took her and she looses any teaching after she is being pulled.
Honestly, at this point I just want her to stop those speech lessons. Because i feel like its not helping as she gets to miss her core subjects.
Please any advice will help. I am so pissed, i feel like crying.
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I am very pissed, please advice me!
My child has been in speech since first grade and one issue i have had is that, the speech teacher keeps pulling her out for speech session right in the middle of a maths or english class. This to me doesnt help the child who is struggling with school in the first place.
Its really hard for my child to grasp something, so she needs to be in class for her to really get what the teacher is teaching. But on speech days which is twice a week, they will pull my child out of class for speech class. Its so fustrating, because when i am teaching her at home, i get to see side notes of incomplete work from her teacher, meaning she wasnt able to finish her work because speech took her and she looses any teaching after she is being pulled.
Honestly, at this point I just want her to stop those speech lessons. Because i feel like its not helping as she gets to miss her core subjects.
Please any advice will help. I am so pissed, i feel like crying.
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Today I got filmed and screamed at
I feel so bad tonight. This event triggered so much anxiety.
I was at the store with my 3yo and 1.5 yo to buy a frame for one of my drawings. This drawing is for a friend, and we were supposed to meet at my house. She didn't see the drawing before, it was a surprise.
When i got out of the store, I wanted to put my drawing in the frame so it was ready when i got home and my friend was there. So i put both my kids in the car, then got out and crouched down in the parking to open the frame (it's a floating frame so you have to center the image right in the middle, it took me 2-3 times to get it properly centered).
I want to specify that my body was TOUCHING the car. I was just bent over in the parking space doing this. My kids were silent, looking out the windows and it's a little bit chilly in Canada right now so they were neither hot nor cold in the car. They were litteraly perfectly fine.
When I got up, I told my kids "GOT IT! We're leaving!" And put my framed drawing in the car, a woman was filming me (she could not see me in the beginning, it looked like no one was there with the kids, she was on the other side of the car so it looked like two kids in a car without a parent there) and then I just popped up. She was filming me, screamed "YOU LEFT YOUR KIDS IN THE CAR!!" And filming my kids, me and my car. I said "I was RIGHT HERE! Do you think I just materialised out of thin air!? I was touching the car!" And she just screamed at me, stopped filming and left. The employees of the store came out because someone told them to call the police because of 2 kids alone in a car.
I feel so bad, I can't eat. The idea of a video of me and my kids and my car being seen on tiktok or another social media fills me with dread. I am panicking. If she posts this video, or crops it so we just see the beginning where my kids are "alone" i will be judged so harshly and without context. I just feel so sad. The store employees gave me a hug and told me to calm down, she was just very intense and that the store cameras will back me in case I need it.
Anyway, I just needed to talk about it because my heart is very heavy at the moment. I could also use a little bit of comforting...
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I feel so bad tonight. This event triggered so much anxiety.
I was at the store with my 3yo and 1.5 yo to buy a frame for one of my drawings. This drawing is for a friend, and we were supposed to meet at my house. She didn't see the drawing before, it was a surprise.
When i got out of the store, I wanted to put my drawing in the frame so it was ready when i got home and my friend was there. So i put both my kids in the car, then got out and crouched down in the parking to open the frame (it's a floating frame so you have to center the image right in the middle, it took me 2-3 times to get it properly centered).
I want to specify that my body was TOUCHING the car. I was just bent over in the parking space doing this. My kids were silent, looking out the windows and it's a little bit chilly in Canada right now so they were neither hot nor cold in the car. They were litteraly perfectly fine.
When I got up, I told my kids "GOT IT! We're leaving!" And put my framed drawing in the car, a woman was filming me (she could not see me in the beginning, it looked like no one was there with the kids, she was on the other side of the car so it looked like two kids in a car without a parent there) and then I just popped up. She was filming me, screamed "YOU LEFT YOUR KIDS IN THE CAR!!" And filming my kids, me and my car. I said "I was RIGHT HERE! Do you think I just materialised out of thin air!? I was touching the car!" And she just screamed at me, stopped filming and left. The employees of the store came out because someone told them to call the police because of 2 kids alone in a car.
I feel so bad, I can't eat. The idea of a video of me and my kids and my car being seen on tiktok or another social media fills me with dread. I am panicking. If she posts this video, or crops it so we just see the beginning where my kids are "alone" i will be judged so harshly and without context. I just feel so sad. The store employees gave me a hug and told me to calm down, she was just very intense and that the store cameras will back me in case I need it.
Anyway, I just needed to talk about it because my heart is very heavy at the moment. I could also use a little bit of comforting...
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