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Who’s making you upset?
Here’s a truth many don’t want to hear: No one can “make” you upset. That power? It’s yours. Always has been. If someone provokes you, and you react with anger, frustration, or blame—it’s not just about them. It’s about your mind’s agreement with the provocation. Your reactivity is a signal, not of their power, but of your unawareness in that moment.
People will say cruel things. They’ll act carelessly. They’ll push buttons—some intentionally, some unknowingly. But their actions are theirs. Your response? That’s yours. And this is where real influence begins: by refusing to hand your emotions over to someone else’s behavior.
When you react from a triggered place, that’s a catabolic state—draining and destructive. It may feel justified, but it’s still your energy being hijacked. Don’t give away that kind of power. Own it. Observe it. Interrupt it.
The beauty is, you’re not expected to be perfect. You will get triggered—because you’re human. But what defines you is what you choose next. Will you keep spiraling, feeding the story of offense and blame? Or will you pause, breathe, and return to a place of ownership?
This isn’t weakness. This is strength. This is emotional mastery. And this is how you shift from being a victim of people’s behavior to becoming the influence you were always meant to be.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, i invite you to check out my books that have helped thousands around the world.
https://www.amazon.com/stores/Mike-Jensen/author/B0DKDC7YSZ
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#button #pressing #react #pause #respond
Background Photo Credit:
Tanveer Mahendra
Here’s a truth many don’t want to hear: No one can “make” you upset. That power? It’s yours. Always has been. If someone provokes you, and you react with anger, frustration, or blame—it’s not just about them. It’s about your mind’s agreement with the provocation. Your reactivity is a signal, not of their power, but of your unawareness in that moment.
People will say cruel things. They’ll act carelessly. They’ll push buttons—some intentionally, some unknowingly. But their actions are theirs. Your response? That’s yours. And this is where real influence begins: by refusing to hand your emotions over to someone else’s behavior.
When you react from a triggered place, that’s a catabolic state—draining and destructive. It may feel justified, but it’s still your energy being hijacked. Don’t give away that kind of power. Own it. Observe it. Interrupt it.
The beauty is, you’re not expected to be perfect. You will get triggered—because you’re human. But what defines you is what you choose next. Will you keep spiraling, feeding the story of offense and blame? Or will you pause, breathe, and return to a place of ownership?
This isn’t weakness. This is strength. This is emotional mastery. And this is how you shift from being a victim of people’s behavior to becoming the influence you were always meant to be.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, i invite you to check out my books that have helped thousands around the world.
https://www.amazon.com/stores/Mike-Jensen/author/B0DKDC7YSZ
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#button #pressing #react #pause #respond
Background Photo Credit:
Tanveer Mahendra
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