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What bad habit are you still feeding?
The strongest version of you may already be there. It could simply be buried beneath habits you keep feeding.
I think we make changing habits harder than it needs to be because we focus so much on stopping the behavior. We tell ourselves we need more discipline, more motivation, or more willpower.
But I believe there is a better question.
What am I doing that keeps this habit alive?
Every habit is being fed by something. Stress. Boredom. Exhaustion. Environment. Emotions. Convenience. Even the thoughts you repeatedly have about yourself.
Through awareness, you begin seeing the pattern before the behavior. You notice the thought. You recognize the emotion. You see the action that normally follows. That is your TEAR process happening in real time.
And awareness gives you something powerful.
Choice.
Instead of fighting yourself when the urge arrives, change what happens before it arrives. Remove easy access. Change the environment. Create distance from the trigger. Replace the old reward with something that actually serves the person you are becoming.
And when you slip, do not turn one action into your identity.
You did something. That does not mean it is who you are.
Acknowledge it. Take responsibility for it. Learn from it. Then make the next choice better.
You do not have to destroy an old habit overnight. You simply have to stop giving it everything it needs to survive.
Eventually, what once felt automatic becomes optional.
And that is where you begin uncovering the strongest version of yourself.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#stop #feed #habits #become #you
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Prateek Katyal
The strongest version of you may already be there. It could simply be buried beneath habits you keep feeding.
I think we make changing habits harder than it needs to be because we focus so much on stopping the behavior. We tell ourselves we need more discipline, more motivation, or more willpower.
But I believe there is a better question.
What am I doing that keeps this habit alive?
Every habit is being fed by something. Stress. Boredom. Exhaustion. Environment. Emotions. Convenience. Even the thoughts you repeatedly have about yourself.
Through awareness, you begin seeing the pattern before the behavior. You notice the thought. You recognize the emotion. You see the action that normally follows. That is your TEAR process happening in real time.
And awareness gives you something powerful.
Choice.
Instead of fighting yourself when the urge arrives, change what happens before it arrives. Remove easy access. Change the environment. Create distance from the trigger. Replace the old reward with something that actually serves the person you are becoming.
And when you slip, do not turn one action into your identity.
You did something. That does not mean it is who you are.
Acknowledge it. Take responsibility for it. Learn from it. Then make the next choice better.
You do not have to destroy an old habit overnight. You simply have to stop giving it everything it needs to survive.
Eventually, what once felt automatic becomes optional.
And that is where you begin uncovering the strongest version of yourself.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#stop #feed #habits #become #you
Background Photo Credit:
Prateek Katyal
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Are you chasing goals?
What if the reason you keep struggling with your goals is because you are focused on the wrong thing?
I have learned that goals can give us direction, but they are terrible places to live.
Think about it. If your entire focus is losing 30 pounds, writing a book, saving money, or running a marathon, every day you have not reached that goal can feel like you are behind. You start measuring yourself by a finish line instead of the progress you are making.
That is why I believe systems are more powerful than goals.
A goal tells you where you want to go. A system determines who you become getting there.
Stop obsessing over the 30 pounds and build the system of moving your body every day. Stop staring at the finished book and create the system of writing every morning. Stop worrying about the amount in your savings account and build the system of consistently putting money away.
This is where CFC becomes so important.
Commitment. Focus. Consistency.
You commit to the direction. You focus on what needs to be done today. Then you consistently repeat it until the behavior becomes part of who you are.
Your potential is not reached through one giant moment. It is revealed through hundreds of small choices repeated frequently.
The goal may be somewhere in the future.
But the system gives you something you can do NOW.
And what you do frequently becomes your frequency.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#chasing #stop #finish #line #build
Background Photo Credit:
Aleksandar Pavlovic
What if the reason you keep struggling with your goals is because you are focused on the wrong thing?
I have learned that goals can give us direction, but they are terrible places to live.
Think about it. If your entire focus is losing 30 pounds, writing a book, saving money, or running a marathon, every day you have not reached that goal can feel like you are behind. You start measuring yourself by a finish line instead of the progress you are making.
That is why I believe systems are more powerful than goals.
A goal tells you where you want to go. A system determines who you become getting there.
Stop obsessing over the 30 pounds and build the system of moving your body every day. Stop staring at the finished book and create the system of writing every morning. Stop worrying about the amount in your savings account and build the system of consistently putting money away.
This is where CFC becomes so important.
Commitment. Focus. Consistency.
You commit to the direction. You focus on what needs to be done today. Then you consistently repeat it until the behavior becomes part of who you are.
Your potential is not reached through one giant moment. It is revealed through hundreds of small choices repeated frequently.
The goal may be somewhere in the future.
But the system gives you something you can do NOW.
And what you do frequently becomes your frequency.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#chasing #stop #finish #line #build
Background Photo Credit:
Aleksandar Pavlovic
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What are you fighting that you cannot change?
I think we make life harder than it needs to be because we spend so much energy fighting things we were never going to control in the first place.
Think about how often we do this.
It rains and we complain. Traffic slows down and we get angry. Someone behaves differently than we think they should and we allow their actions to change our entire emotional state.
But what did any of that accomplish?
The rain still fell. Traffic still moved slowly. That person still made their own choices.
The only thing that changed was our energy.
I have learned that peace comes from understanding the difference between what I can influence and what I cannot. I cannot choose someone else’s actions, but I can choose my response. I cannot change what has already happened, but I can influence what happens next. I cannot always choose the circumstances, but I can choose the energy I bring into them.
That is where your power has always been.
So today, when something frustrates you, stop for a moment and ask yourself one simple question.
Can I influence this?
If you can, take action.
If you cannot, stop giving it your energy.
Life does not become easier because everything suddenly starts going your way. Life becomes easier when you stop demanding that it does.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#stop #fighting #start #influencer #change
Background Photo Credit:
Max Bender
I think we make life harder than it needs to be because we spend so much energy fighting things we were never going to control in the first place.
Think about how often we do this.
It rains and we complain. Traffic slows down and we get angry. Someone behaves differently than we think they should and we allow their actions to change our entire emotional state.
But what did any of that accomplish?
The rain still fell. Traffic still moved slowly. That person still made their own choices.
The only thing that changed was our energy.
I have learned that peace comes from understanding the difference between what I can influence and what I cannot. I cannot choose someone else’s actions, but I can choose my response. I cannot change what has already happened, but I can influence what happens next. I cannot always choose the circumstances, but I can choose the energy I bring into them.
That is where your power has always been.
So today, when something frustrates you, stop for a moment and ask yourself one simple question.
Can I influence this?
If you can, take action.
If you cannot, stop giving it your energy.
Life does not become easier because everything suddenly starts going your way. Life becomes easier when you stop demanding that it does.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#stop #fighting #start #influencer #change
Background Photo Credit:
Max Bender
