How to get better at conversations? I suck at…
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How to get better at conversations?
I suck at conversations, both in-person and in messages. I grew up very isolated and never had any friends or talked to anyone really unless I had to so my social skills are down the drain, almost non-existent. I've tried making online friends to maybe pick up some experience and skills but every time they would leave either because my texts were either boring or dry to them. I've also tried making friends in real life but it never goes beyond a simple "hello" and "how has your day been?". I'm am also extremely unattractive and no matter how hard I try, whether that's with makeup, new hairstyles, new clothes, skincare, etc., I'm still extremely below average, so people naturally don't pay attention to me or try to keep a distance. Because of my ugliness, I need to have good social skills to at least bump myself up a bit and maybe boost my attractiveness (even if it's ever so slightly). But how do you get better when you had no experience with relationships and have basically no life events to talk about? How can I try when I can't even get people to be interested in me enough to have a longer conversation than 3 minutes that isn't just because they have to, but because they want to keep talking to me? And when I do keep a conversation, how do I stop being so awkward that it leaves the other person embarrassed for me? Also how do I keep a conversation when I run out of things to say or don't know what to respond? I know this sounds pathetic but I really need help because I'm so sick of myself and so sick of being lonely. Any advice is appreciated
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I suck at conversations, both in-person and in messages. I grew up very isolated and never had any friends or talked to anyone really unless I had to so my social skills are down the drain, almost non-existent. I've tried making online friends to maybe pick up some experience and skills but every time they would leave either because my texts were either boring or dry to them. I've also tried making friends in real life but it never goes beyond a simple "hello" and "how has your day been?". I'm am also extremely unattractive and no matter how hard I try, whether that's with makeup, new hairstyles, new clothes, skincare, etc., I'm still extremely below average, so people naturally don't pay attention to me or try to keep a distance. Because of my ugliness, I need to have good social skills to at least bump myself up a bit and maybe boost my attractiveness (even if it's ever so slightly). But how do you get better when you had no experience with relationships and have basically no life events to talk about? How can I try when I can't even get people to be interested in me enough to have a longer conversation than 3 minutes that isn't just because they have to, but because they want to keep talking to me? And when I do keep a conversation, how do I stop being so awkward that it leaves the other person embarrassed for me? Also how do I keep a conversation when I run out of things to say or don't know what to respond? I know this sounds pathetic but I really need help because I'm so sick of myself and so sick of being lonely. Any advice is appreciated
#relationships
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