Going into my senior year with very few close friends. How…
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Going into my senior year with very few close friends. How do I change that?
I’m going into my senior year of college, and I’ve started realizing that I don’t really have many close friends or consistent social outlets. I’ll also be living alone next year, which makes me a little worried that I’ll end up feeling even more isolated.
I have acquaintances from classes, Greek life, sports, and other activities, but very few friendships that have grown into people I regularly spend time with. Off the top of my head, there are probably only two people I expect to hang out with consistently next year. I’m grateful for them, but it still feels pretty lonely.
I dealt with the same problem this past year. I tried joining a ping-pong club, played on a recreational basketball team, and regularly played pickup basketball. I met people and had friendly conversations, but nothing really developed beyond seeing each other at the activity.
I graduated early and am now a graduate student, so school keeps me busy. Still, I don’t want to keep using that as an excuse. I’m worried that this problem will only become harder to fix once work and adult responsibilities take up even more time.
I can think of places to meet people: clubs, people in my new apartment building, classes, sports, volunteering, or other hobbies. My problem is not necessarily meeting people. It is getting from “we know each other” to actually making plans, spending time together, and building a real friendship.
I also attend therapy and have brought this up, but I’m looking for practical advice from people who have dealt with something similar.
How do you turn acquaintances into actual friends? Should I be more direct about inviting people to do things? How often should I reach out without feeling like I’m forcing it? I’d especially appreciate advice from anyone who had to rebuild their social life near the end of college.
#relationships
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I’m going into my senior year of college, and I’ve started realizing that I don’t really have many close friends or consistent social outlets. I’ll also be living alone next year, which makes me a little worried that I’ll end up feeling even more isolated.
I have acquaintances from classes, Greek life, sports, and other activities, but very few friendships that have grown into people I regularly spend time with. Off the top of my head, there are probably only two people I expect to hang out with consistently next year. I’m grateful for them, but it still feels pretty lonely.
I dealt with the same problem this past year. I tried joining a ping-pong club, played on a recreational basketball team, and regularly played pickup basketball. I met people and had friendly conversations, but nothing really developed beyond seeing each other at the activity.
I graduated early and am now a graduate student, so school keeps me busy. Still, I don’t want to keep using that as an excuse. I’m worried that this problem will only become harder to fix once work and adult responsibilities take up even more time.
I can think of places to meet people: clubs, people in my new apartment building, classes, sports, volunteering, or other hobbies. My problem is not necessarily meeting people. It is getting from “we know each other” to actually making plans, spending time together, and building a real friendship.
I also attend therapy and have brought this up, but I’m looking for practical advice from people who have dealt with something similar.
How do you turn acquaintances into actual friends? Should I be more direct about inviting people to do things? How often should I reach out without feeling like I’m forcing it? I’d especially appreciate advice from anyone who had to rebuild their social life near the end of college.
#relationships
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