I feel very sad and self conscious after being rejected…
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I feel very sad and self conscious after being rejected - questioning myself
I understand that this is a normal feeling.
I’m 28f, just moved to a new city, and wanted to try out online dating. I’ve never had tinder or bumble or anything like that before. I downloaded bumble and had a lot of likes at the beginning. I matched with a guy who initially wasn’t my type. I didn’t really want to go on the date but I told myself that I should be open minded, so I went. I found that he was very handsome in person. And his demeanor was very different from the guys I’ve dated in the past.
Anyway, we went on three dates. After the second date I noticed a drop in interest. I gave him space for a week and suggested meeting up again. He accepted and was very sweet and kind on the date. On all of our dates, he picked up the tab and was extremely accommodating and open to what I wanted to do.
I didn’t hear from him after our date. A few days later I text him saying that I am looking for something serious and was interested in seeing more of him. He texted me back saying that something was missing for him.
I feel so bad about myself. I’ve always had relationships where I was second choice so I think it’s hitting that insecurity wound for me. I felt very confused because he started off very interested. Not in an obnoxious way, but intentional.
I think it’s better if I just learn to trust myself more, because I felt him “pulling away”. I am proud of myself for bringing up the conversation with him, but this hurts. Idk if I’ll do it again in the future.
Just feeling really sad tonight. I’m also overthinking everything I said or did with him. Replaying conversations and looks trying to decipher what went wrong.
I deleted bumble for now, I think I’ll stick to getting to know people in person.
#relationships
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I understand that this is a normal feeling.
I’m 28f, just moved to a new city, and wanted to try out online dating. I’ve never had tinder or bumble or anything like that before. I downloaded bumble and had a lot of likes at the beginning. I matched with a guy who initially wasn’t my type. I didn’t really want to go on the date but I told myself that I should be open minded, so I went. I found that he was very handsome in person. And his demeanor was very different from the guys I’ve dated in the past.
Anyway, we went on three dates. After the second date I noticed a drop in interest. I gave him space for a week and suggested meeting up again. He accepted and was very sweet and kind on the date. On all of our dates, he picked up the tab and was extremely accommodating and open to what I wanted to do.
I didn’t hear from him after our date. A few days later I text him saying that I am looking for something serious and was interested in seeing more of him. He texted me back saying that something was missing for him.
I feel so bad about myself. I’ve always had relationships where I was second choice so I think it’s hitting that insecurity wound for me. I felt very confused because he started off very interested. Not in an obnoxious way, but intentional.
I think it’s better if I just learn to trust myself more, because I felt him “pulling away”. I am proud of myself for bringing up the conversation with him, but this hurts. Idk if I’ll do it again in the future.
Just feeling really sad tonight. I’m also overthinking everything I said or did with him. Replaying conversations and looks trying to decipher what went wrong.
I deleted bumble for now, I think I’ll stick to getting to know people in person.
#relationships
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