Handling boundaries with 25 year old daughter. Hello…
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Handling boundaries with 25 year old daughter.
Hello everyone! I am a 60 year old mother, with 4 children (25F, 23F, 21M, and 19M). My oldest daughter who is 25, recently just moved back in with me to get back on her feet. She was living out of state and faced some tough times and decided she needed to come home and seek some comfort. I am thrilled to have her home. She’s an amazing young woman, has a job, lots of friends, responsible, and very helpful around the house. This is NOT a complaint about having her back home.
There has recently been a development that I am curious how other parents might handle. My daughter has started seeing somebody (I assume) and occasionally will go out for post-work drinks and not come back home. She doesn’t always text me when she will not be coming home. I have a feeling she is with a man, and spending the night at his. This is not a problem at all as she is an adult and it’s not my business. I’m happy she’s having fun and having nights out even while living with her mother (Ha!)
My only issue is that I like to know who will be home for the night, for safety purposes and just a general head count. I do NOT expect her to tell me where she is or what she is doing, but is it overstepping if I just ask for her to shoot me a quick message letting me know that she will not be sleeping at the house? I’m worried that this is overstepping boundaries, since she’s 25, so I wanted to see what other folks had to say. I am open to any and all opinions, truly! I want to make the right move without her regretting moving back in with me temporarily. This is my first time having a mid 20s “child” so please bear with me.
TIA!
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Hello everyone! I am a 60 year old mother, with 4 children (25F, 23F, 21M, and 19M). My oldest daughter who is 25, recently just moved back in with me to get back on her feet. She was living out of state and faced some tough times and decided she needed to come home and seek some comfort. I am thrilled to have her home. She’s an amazing young woman, has a job, lots of friends, responsible, and very helpful around the house. This is NOT a complaint about having her back home.
There has recently been a development that I am curious how other parents might handle. My daughter has started seeing somebody (I assume) and occasionally will go out for post-work drinks and not come back home. She doesn’t always text me when she will not be coming home. I have a feeling she is with a man, and spending the night at his. This is not a problem at all as she is an adult and it’s not my business. I’m happy she’s having fun and having nights out even while living with her mother (Ha!)
My only issue is that I like to know who will be home for the night, for safety purposes and just a general head count. I do NOT expect her to tell me where she is or what she is doing, but is it overstepping if I just ask for her to shoot me a quick message letting me know that she will not be sleeping at the house? I’m worried that this is overstepping boundaries, since she’s 25, so I wanted to see what other folks had to say. I am open to any and all opinions, truly! I want to make the right move without her regretting moving back in with me temporarily. This is my first time having a mid 20s “child” so please bear with me.
TIA!
#relationships
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