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Meanwhile, I dreamed of working in TV since I was pretty much old enough to talk, and due to a mix of laziness and long-untreated ADHD, somehow wound up 30 years old with MS and only an associate’s degree to my name. Long story short, I’m pretty much stuck where I’m at doing mind-numbing medical office work. I have tried to “pivot” and it did not work.
So I don’t have a career and I am definitely not trying to get promoted at my day job and make a career out of *it*, either. (Been there, done that, and it was not worth all that stress for maaaaybe one or two extra dollars an hour. Especially when I have a disease that’s exacerbated by stress.)
I always feel so awkward, and it trudges up a lot of sadness, when I meet new people and they ask, “What do you do?”
(I run a small— and I mean *small*— art business on the side, but I don’t make nearly enough money from it to count, and it’d feel ridiculous to lie and say that I just do that part time.)
It’s honestly so awkward anytime I’ve run into my husband’s colleagues or been at a work dinner with him and they ask “What do you do?”
If I answer honestly, I’ve always felt there’s been a very obvious and awkward vibe shift. (Plus, I know sometimes people ask this question to also kind of size you up, and it’s embarrassing.)
But I feel like when you try to dodge the question, “Oh, I just have a day job, and I do _____ for fun”, *especially* to STEM people who are very serious about their own work, it just comes off mysterious and tends to invite more questions.
TLDR: What do you say when somebody asks you “what do you do?” and you don’t have a career? Is there a way to redirect the conversation to things like hobbies / volunteer work instead that doesn’t feel clunky or make things more awkward?
(Also, I wish people would just ask “What do you do *for fun*?” instead!)
#relationships
source List of top Folklorish ASIAN ghosts for you to ponder about on holidayssss ♥😊! :
***List of top 10 ASIAN ghosts for you to think about! :***
**1.** **Jikininki (Japan – “Man-Eating Ghosts”) -** The worst part about Jikininki? **They don’t kill you immediately.** They **let you go insane first, make you crave human flesh, force you to eat your own family—before finally devouring your screaming, mind-broken corpse.**
**2. Leyak (Indonesia – Bali’s Ultimate Nightmare) - By the time it kills you, you’ll be begging for death.** If you’re unlucky, it won’t kill you. Instead, it **curses you to become the next Leyak.**
**3. Brahmaparusha – The Skull-Wearing, Brain-Drinking Nightmare** **-** This isn’t your average ghost. **It’s a demon that carries a human skull and drinks fresh brain matter from it. Kills victims by ripping off their heads, then dances while drinking their blood.** But the worst part? **It doesn’t let you die peacefully.** It **plays with your mind first**, making you see hallucinations before finally attacking.
**3. Bhuta Kola (India) – The Ritual Spirit That Possesses You** **-** Bhuta Kola is a **holy godly spirit**—but if you **anger it, it possesses you.** The possession starts slowly. \*\*First, you start chanting names in a language you don’t understand.\*\*Then, \*\*you feel something crawl inside you, like an insect skittering under your skin.\*\*Eventually, **you lose control completely.** You dance, you laugh, you scream, you convulse—**until your heart gives out.** And the worst part? **No one can stop it.**
**4. Sukima Onna (Japan) – The Woman in the Gaps - Ever had the feeling that something is watching you from the tiny gaps and cracks smaller than even a cm in your room?**
**5. Krahang & Krasue (Thailand) –** The Flesh-Hungry husband and wife.
**7. Hantu Tetek (Malaysia) – The Suffocating Demon Mother** **-** A ghost that appears **as a woman with massive, sagging breasts.** Don’t laugh. **Those breasts aren’t normal—they suffocate you in your sleep.** She paralyzes victims in their beds, sits on their chest, and **slowly smothers them to death.**
#local
Meanwhile, I dreamed of working in TV since I was pretty much old enough to talk, and due to a mix of laziness and long-untreated ADHD, somehow wound up 30 years old with MS and only an associate’s degree to my name. Long story short, I’m pretty much stuck where I’m at doing mind-numbing medical office work. I have tried to “pivot” and it did not work.
So I don’t have a career and I am definitely not trying to get promoted at my day job and make a career out of *it*, either. (Been there, done that, and it was not worth all that stress for maaaaybe one or two extra dollars an hour. Especially when I have a disease that’s exacerbated by stress.)
I always feel so awkward, and it trudges up a lot of sadness, when I meet new people and they ask, “What do you do?”
(I run a small— and I mean *small*— art business on the side, but I don’t make nearly enough money from it to count, and it’d feel ridiculous to lie and say that I just do that part time.)
It’s honestly so awkward anytime I’ve run into my husband’s colleagues or been at a work dinner with him and they ask “What do you do?”
If I answer honestly, I’ve always felt there’s been a very obvious and awkward vibe shift. (Plus, I know sometimes people ask this question to also kind of size you up, and it’s embarrassing.)
But I feel like when you try to dodge the question, “Oh, I just have a day job, and I do _____ for fun”, *especially* to STEM people who are very serious about their own work, it just comes off mysterious and tends to invite more questions.
TLDR: What do you say when somebody asks you “what do you do?” and you don’t have a career? Is there a way to redirect the conversation to things like hobbies / volunteer work instead that doesn’t feel clunky or make things more awkward?
(Also, I wish people would just ask “What do you do *for fun*?” instead!)
#relationships
source List of top Folklorish ASIAN ghosts for you to ponder about on holidayssss ♥😊! :
***List of top 10 ASIAN ghosts for you to think about! :***
**1.** **Jikininki (Japan – “Man-Eating Ghosts”) -** The worst part about Jikininki? **They don’t kill you immediately.** They **let you go insane first, make you crave human flesh, force you to eat your own family—before finally devouring your screaming, mind-broken corpse.**
**2. Leyak (Indonesia – Bali’s Ultimate Nightmare) - By the time it kills you, you’ll be begging for death.** If you’re unlucky, it won’t kill you. Instead, it **curses you to become the next Leyak.**
**3. Brahmaparusha – The Skull-Wearing, Brain-Drinking Nightmare** **-** This isn’t your average ghost. **It’s a demon that carries a human skull and drinks fresh brain matter from it. Kills victims by ripping off their heads, then dances while drinking their blood.** But the worst part? **It doesn’t let you die peacefully.** It **plays with your mind first**, making you see hallucinations before finally attacking.
**3. Bhuta Kola (India) – The Ritual Spirit That Possesses You** **-** Bhuta Kola is a **holy godly spirit**—but if you **anger it, it possesses you.** The possession starts slowly. \*\*First, you start chanting names in a language you don’t understand.\*\*Then, \*\*you feel something crawl inside you, like an insect skittering under your skin.\*\*Eventually, **you lose control completely.** You dance, you laugh, you scream, you convulse—**until your heart gives out.** And the worst part? **No one can stop it.**
**4. Sukima Onna (Japan) – The Woman in the Gaps - Ever had the feeling that something is watching you from the tiny gaps and cracks smaller than even a cm in your room?**
**5. Krahang & Krasue (Thailand) –** The Flesh-Hungry husband and wife.
**7. Hantu Tetek (Malaysia) – The Suffocating Demon Mother** **-** A ghost that appears **as a woman with massive, sagging breasts.** Don’t laugh. **Those breasts aren’t normal—they suffocate you in your sleep.** She paralyzes victims in their beds, sits on their chest, and **slowly smothers them to death.**
#local
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