As an Indian, I felt comfortable socially until a Western…
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As an Indian, I felt comfortable socially until a Western drinking party completely turned me off. Is this normal?
Hi everyone,
I’m a 23-year-old Asian (Indian) currently living in Europe. I grew up in a small village, and even though I’m technically Gen Z, I don’t feel like I was brought up in a typical Gen Z way. I relate more to a 90s mindset and would say I’m more mature or reserved for my age.
Recently, I stayed in a hostel and met some Australians and Americans (also Gen Z). In normal, casual situations like having dinner together or chatting at night I got along with them really well. That actually made me feel confident that I could mix into Western culture without problems.
But things got awkward later during a drinking party.
At first, everything was fine for about 10 minutes. Then one of the Americans started asking very personal questions, like crazy stories from school life and later even about when I lost my virginity.
Honestly, there are some wild or funny things from my school days, but in an Indian cultural context. I’m pretty sure those stories would sound extremely cringe or “what the hell” to Americans or Australians, so I chose not to share them.
When the virginity question came up, I completely froze. My English didn’t help much either I struggled with their accent, got nervous, and ended up giving a very messy answer. It was honestly embarrassing.
I’m also very sure I don’t want to invent stories just to sound cool or fit in.
So now I’m confused:
•Am I choosing the wrong kind of parties?
•Should I avoid drinking parties like this?
•Or is this just a cultural gap I need to learn how to handle better?
Main question:
How do people from more conservative or reserved cultures learn to handle Western party conversations without feeling uncomfortable or fake?
I’m not judging anyone I just want to improve socially without losing myself.
Would love to hear your experiences or advice
#relationships
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Hi everyone,
I’m a 23-year-old Asian (Indian) currently living in Europe. I grew up in a small village, and even though I’m technically Gen Z, I don’t feel like I was brought up in a typical Gen Z way. I relate more to a 90s mindset and would say I’m more mature or reserved for my age.
Recently, I stayed in a hostel and met some Australians and Americans (also Gen Z). In normal, casual situations like having dinner together or chatting at night I got along with them really well. That actually made me feel confident that I could mix into Western culture without problems.
But things got awkward later during a drinking party.
At first, everything was fine for about 10 minutes. Then one of the Americans started asking very personal questions, like crazy stories from school life and later even about when I lost my virginity.
Honestly, there are some wild or funny things from my school days, but in an Indian cultural context. I’m pretty sure those stories would sound extremely cringe or “what the hell” to Americans or Australians, so I chose not to share them.
When the virginity question came up, I completely froze. My English didn’t help much either I struggled with their accent, got nervous, and ended up giving a very messy answer. It was honestly embarrassing.
I’m also very sure I don’t want to invent stories just to sound cool or fit in.
So now I’m confused:
•Am I choosing the wrong kind of parties?
•Should I avoid drinking parties like this?
•Or is this just a cultural gap I need to learn how to handle better?
Main question:
How do people from more conservative or reserved cultures learn to handle Western party conversations without feeling uncomfortable or fake?
I’m not judging anyone I just want to improve socially without losing myself.
Would love to hear your experiences or advice
#relationships
source
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