It feels like I might never find love I’ll own up to this…
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It feels like I might never find love
I’ll own up to this absolutely being a bitter post. But I’m frustrated and just want to get it out.
I got out of a 4 year relationship in October 2025 and found a completely foreign dating landscape. When I was last dating people still actually went on dates!!! But now it feels like no one is looking for anything serious, or they say they are and then I discover, holy shit nope!
I just experienced my 3rd “3month situationship” that I didn’t know was a situationship.
Every time it goes:
Me: “so what’re you looking for?”
Them: “ I’m open. If I find someone I really like id love to be in a relationship. And if not that’s cool too”
Me: “same. Glad we’re on the same page”
We then go on dates, hang out, etc etc until it reaches three months and I’m finally like “heyyy… so what’re we doing here?”
To which the reply is always, “I really like you. I’m just not in the place to be there for someone emotionally or consistently right now. But can we keep doing what we’re doing?”
To which my answer is “no.” Because this being said at a point where we’re behaving like we’re in a relationship, and they would like it to continue that way, but don’t want to commit. Which is FINE. BUT JUST SAY THAT FROM THE START.
I’m tired. I just want someone who respects and cares for me the same way I do them.
Do people still date normally??? How do I find them???
I’ll admit I am in a very transient city so a lot of the time people are just passing through. Which may be part of the issue. But my friends who live in other places have the same issue.
#relationships
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I’ll own up to this absolutely being a bitter post. But I’m frustrated and just want to get it out.
I got out of a 4 year relationship in October 2025 and found a completely foreign dating landscape. When I was last dating people still actually went on dates!!! But now it feels like no one is looking for anything serious, or they say they are and then I discover, holy shit nope!
I just experienced my 3rd “3month situationship” that I didn’t know was a situationship.
Every time it goes:
Me: “so what’re you looking for?”
Them: “ I’m open. If I find someone I really like id love to be in a relationship. And if not that’s cool too”
Me: “same. Glad we’re on the same page”
We then go on dates, hang out, etc etc until it reaches three months and I’m finally like “heyyy… so what’re we doing here?”
To which the reply is always, “I really like you. I’m just not in the place to be there for someone emotionally or consistently right now. But can we keep doing what we’re doing?”
To which my answer is “no.” Because this being said at a point where we’re behaving like we’re in a relationship, and they would like it to continue that way, but don’t want to commit. Which is FINE. BUT JUST SAY THAT FROM THE START.
I’m tired. I just want someone who respects and cares for me the same way I do them.
Do people still date normally??? How do I find them???
I’ll admit I am in a very transient city so a lot of the time people are just passing through. Which may be part of the issue. But my friends who live in other places have the same issue.
#relationships
source
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