Do most people just have bad social skills? It's just…
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Do most people just have bad social skills?
It's just something I've noticed. Most people that I talk to don't put in anywhere near the effort into the conversation that I do. They don't introduce themselves, they don't ask me questions to get me to talk about myself, don't seem to want to dive further into topics, getting information out of them is like pulling teeth even when asking about their hobbies or things they are supposedly into... I feel like I'm always carrying the load to keep the conversation going at all and when I stop engaging so do they. Out of 10 there's maybe 1 that can talk at all and often they are flaky and inconsistent too, like they'll flat out say this 'oh I have hard time maintaining contacts' like literally all they have to do is send me a message once or twice a week and they can't even do that. It's especially brutal online but IRL isn't much better. I think in the past year I've had a total of 3 fruitful conversations, one was with my coach, one with my therapist, and the other with my hairdresser, all people that are paid to talk. Am I expecting too much or am I doing something wrong?
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It's just something I've noticed. Most people that I talk to don't put in anywhere near the effort into the conversation that I do. They don't introduce themselves, they don't ask me questions to get me to talk about myself, don't seem to want to dive further into topics, getting information out of them is like pulling teeth even when asking about their hobbies or things they are supposedly into... I feel like I'm always carrying the load to keep the conversation going at all and when I stop engaging so do they. Out of 10 there's maybe 1 that can talk at all and often they are flaky and inconsistent too, like they'll flat out say this 'oh I have hard time maintaining contacts' like literally all they have to do is send me a message once or twice a week and they can't even do that. It's especially brutal online but IRL isn't much better. I think in the past year I've had a total of 3 fruitful conversations, one was with my coach, one with my therapist, and the other with my hairdresser, all people that are paid to talk. Am I expecting too much or am I doing something wrong?
#relationships
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