Finally Realized Why Friendships Don’t Stick for Me…
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Finally Realized Why Friendships Don’t Stick for Me! Neurodivergence & Direct vs. Indirect Communication
I’m a 20 something biracial Latin woman with ADHD, and I think I finally understand why I keep ending up feeling hurt and misunderstood in friendships.
I work best with people that are direct. I need clear communication about boundaries, expectations, and availability.
When people drop hints, are vague, or expect me to read between the lines, I end up being the one to bring it up to them in an attempt to get clarity. That doesn’t work so well with indirect communicators no matter how I try to approach it.
Recently, I had a friendship end after I tried to explain my needs. The other person perceived it as “forcing things” and “acting intense.”
Her philosophy was that friendships don’t require directness, or laying out expectations etc and they just “flow.”
I’m the complete opposite unfortunately.
This made me realize my struggle isn’t about being “too much” or inherently flawed; it’s about my neurodivergence and mismatched communication styles. Especially with people who communicate indirectly.
Does anyone else have struggles with their neurodivergence and how does that manifest for you?
How do you navigate friendships when your need for directness clashes with someone else’s indirect style?
Please be kind!
#relationships
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I’m a 20 something biracial Latin woman with ADHD, and I think I finally understand why I keep ending up feeling hurt and misunderstood in friendships.
I work best with people that are direct. I need clear communication about boundaries, expectations, and availability.
When people drop hints, are vague, or expect me to read between the lines, I end up being the one to bring it up to them in an attempt to get clarity. That doesn’t work so well with indirect communicators no matter how I try to approach it.
Recently, I had a friendship end after I tried to explain my needs. The other person perceived it as “forcing things” and “acting intense.”
Her philosophy was that friendships don’t require directness, or laying out expectations etc and they just “flow.”
I’m the complete opposite unfortunately.
This made me realize my struggle isn’t about being “too much” or inherently flawed; it’s about my neurodivergence and mismatched communication styles. Especially with people who communicate indirectly.
Does anyone else have struggles with their neurodivergence and how does that manifest for you?
How do you navigate friendships when your need for directness clashes with someone else’s indirect style?
Please be kind!
#relationships
source
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