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How to talk to this person? I screwed it up a bit already
Hi! I have pretty poor social skills and quite bad social anxiety, and I want some guidance on how I could become friends with this person in one of my college classes.
I talked to them on this semester's first day of class (which im realizing was already several weeks ago AAAAGH), and they were really cool!! They seemed interested in the conversation we had, but then left class without saying anything, which really confused me. On the second day of class, I waved to them, but they didnt try to talk to me at all, so i got all sad and down on myself for a while thinking they didnt like me. One of the classes after that, they moved to a different seat. Not sure if it was on purpose or just cause their original one got taken.
Looking back on it now, its possible they were just very anxious i think?? Their body language the one time we talked seemed very much like how someone with anxiety might act. And then I was dumb and didn't continue to talk to them. And now its 3-ish weeks later, and I dont really know what to do.
The reason I got so butthurt abou them not talking back to me in the first place was because I usually chicken out of talking to people who seem interesting, so it was a big thing for me to do it. But then they didnt talk to me back, so it was like a punch in the face.
I'm at a loss. I don't really know how to make friends with people in general, and I feel awkward just walking up and talking to them after the few weeks I haven't. Maybe i'm just blowing this all up in my head way too much. We did only talk once, anyway.
Is there anything that I can still do to make friends with them? Do you think I'm just way overthinking this and they aren't interested in friendship at all?
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Hi! I have pretty poor social skills and quite bad social anxiety, and I want some guidance on how I could become friends with this person in one of my college classes.
I talked to them on this semester's first day of class (which im realizing was already several weeks ago AAAAGH), and they were really cool!! They seemed interested in the conversation we had, but then left class without saying anything, which really confused me. On the second day of class, I waved to them, but they didnt try to talk to me at all, so i got all sad and down on myself for a while thinking they didnt like me. One of the classes after that, they moved to a different seat. Not sure if it was on purpose or just cause their original one got taken.
Looking back on it now, its possible they were just very anxious i think?? Their body language the one time we talked seemed very much like how someone with anxiety might act. And then I was dumb and didn't continue to talk to them. And now its 3-ish weeks later, and I dont really know what to do.
The reason I got so butthurt abou them not talking back to me in the first place was because I usually chicken out of talking to people who seem interesting, so it was a big thing for me to do it. But then they didnt talk to me back, so it was like a punch in the face.
I'm at a loss. I don't really know how to make friends with people in general, and I feel awkward just walking up and talking to them after the few weeks I haven't. Maybe i'm just blowing this all up in my head way too much. We did only talk once, anyway.
Is there anything that I can still do to make friends with them? Do you think I'm just way overthinking this and they aren't interested in friendship at all?
#relationships
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