I feel like a creep when doing stuff alone Hi! I'm an…
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I feel like a creep when doing stuff alone
Hi! I'm an Indian man in my mid twenties, living in the UK. My friends all moved to different areas and we fell out of touch. But I am an outgoing person nonetheless, so I just go out to have fun alone. I visit pubs, museums, cafes, and sometimes even clubs alone.
But every time I try to socialize I can't help but feel like I'm being creepy. I want to talk to more people, and I want to socialize, but in the back of my mind I always think that I'm maybe just being weird.
Doesn't help that Indian men have a reputation of being weird online, and my dumbass thinks that somehow reflects in real life and I gotta watch myself to make sure I don't further make it true.
It's come to a point where every time someone asks me what I've been up to lately I just go blank, because I don't go outside much now. It's now started affecting my conversational skills too, because I feel like I don't make new memories or experiences that I can talk about, so every conversation ends up being like an interview.
Just to clarify, when I try to initiate interaction, I stay respectful of people, and give people their space if I feel like they're not comfortable with an interaction that I initiated. Most of the people that know me or those that I've had brief conversations with seem to think that I'm a great person. However I seem to have spiraled down so much that I've just stopped making any efforts altogether now.
The only people that I talk to now are the bar staff at my local pub (which I now only visit when there's little to no customers in there), and my work colleagues. Some of my work colleagues have invited me to hang out a couple times, but when it comes to me asking them to hang out I always find an excuse. Either the moment isn't right, or the flow of conversation isn't leading towards me asking them to hang out after work. But mostly, I feel like me asking them to hang out will come across as weird or creepy.
Any advice on how I can work on myself and put myself out there more will be greatly appreciated. I've tried all the generic tips that you can find online, and it does help me leave my house, but when it comes to talking with people I still 'fumble', if you know what I mean.
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Hi! I'm an Indian man in my mid twenties, living in the UK. My friends all moved to different areas and we fell out of touch. But I am an outgoing person nonetheless, so I just go out to have fun alone. I visit pubs, museums, cafes, and sometimes even clubs alone.
But every time I try to socialize I can't help but feel like I'm being creepy. I want to talk to more people, and I want to socialize, but in the back of my mind I always think that I'm maybe just being weird.
Doesn't help that Indian men have a reputation of being weird online, and my dumbass thinks that somehow reflects in real life and I gotta watch myself to make sure I don't further make it true.
It's come to a point where every time someone asks me what I've been up to lately I just go blank, because I don't go outside much now. It's now started affecting my conversational skills too, because I feel like I don't make new memories or experiences that I can talk about, so every conversation ends up being like an interview.
Just to clarify, when I try to initiate interaction, I stay respectful of people, and give people their space if I feel like they're not comfortable with an interaction that I initiated. Most of the people that know me or those that I've had brief conversations with seem to think that I'm a great person. However I seem to have spiraled down so much that I've just stopped making any efforts altogether now.
The only people that I talk to now are the bar staff at my local pub (which I now only visit when there's little to no customers in there), and my work colleagues. Some of my work colleagues have invited me to hang out a couple times, but when it comes to me asking them to hang out I always find an excuse. Either the moment isn't right, or the flow of conversation isn't leading towards me asking them to hang out after work. But mostly, I feel like me asking them to hang out will come across as weird or creepy.
Any advice on how I can work on myself and put myself out there more will be greatly appreciated. I've tried all the generic tips that you can find online, and it does help me leave my house, but when it comes to talking with people I still 'fumble', if you know what I mean.
#relationships
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