What to do when ur friends outcast you but smile to your…
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What to do when ur friends outcast you but smile to your face??
I'm about to start university, and i dont want to experience what i did in high school.
I dont know how to point it out or adress situations like this, because it is not visible like insults etc.
Everyone gets presents for their birthdays, I just receive messages from them (I got em gifts). I'm not invited to some places they go. When we'll sit at a restaurant, and there isnt enough places, I sit to the other table. They mainly talk w each other, but not with me, I'm not included in the convos. When they'll take a picture, im not included. When others request sth, they r willing to participate, but when i recommend anything, they just hint that I do it alone and they wont join. They post each other, rarely me. One thing that really made me upset was, when we were on a plane for a school trip, the "best friend" of mine changed her seat and sat w others, leaving me alone in that part of the plane. Like I could leave my seat and take the empty seat there too? But she sees the right to herself to take that seat and leave me alone like that.
But they also seem "nice". For example, when once I was leaving the metro, one of my friends couldnt say goodbye to me cuz it was crowded. So she texted me after saying, oh I'm sorry, I couldnt say goodbye to you, and talking sweetly. They act nice for unimportant shit like that. And its hard to talk about it cuz they just seem nice on the surface.
It feels stupid and pathetic to be upset that someone doesnt love/prioritize/include me much. Like if I ask it, will they just start loving me? or do it cuz they feel obligated to do it?
So I didnt say anything and I slowly stopped trying hard. When I didnt try, the weak connection got destroyed already. Now im very alone. I'm about to start university and i want to know what can I do in such situations if it happens again there.
Should I point it out? or just silently leave and find new ppl who dont outcast me? Why could I be outcasted, is there sth wrong with me? What am I doing wrong?
#relationships
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I'm about to start university, and i dont want to experience what i did in high school.
I dont know how to point it out or adress situations like this, because it is not visible like insults etc.
Everyone gets presents for their birthdays, I just receive messages from them (I got em gifts). I'm not invited to some places they go. When we'll sit at a restaurant, and there isnt enough places, I sit to the other table. They mainly talk w each other, but not with me, I'm not included in the convos. When they'll take a picture, im not included. When others request sth, they r willing to participate, but when i recommend anything, they just hint that I do it alone and they wont join. They post each other, rarely me. One thing that really made me upset was, when we were on a plane for a school trip, the "best friend" of mine changed her seat and sat w others, leaving me alone in that part of the plane. Like I could leave my seat and take the empty seat there too? But she sees the right to herself to take that seat and leave me alone like that.
But they also seem "nice". For example, when once I was leaving the metro, one of my friends couldnt say goodbye to me cuz it was crowded. So she texted me after saying, oh I'm sorry, I couldnt say goodbye to you, and talking sweetly. They act nice for unimportant shit like that. And its hard to talk about it cuz they just seem nice on the surface.
It feels stupid and pathetic to be upset that someone doesnt love/prioritize/include me much. Like if I ask it, will they just start loving me? or do it cuz they feel obligated to do it?
So I didnt say anything and I slowly stopped trying hard. When I didnt try, the weak connection got destroyed already. Now im very alone. I'm about to start university and i want to know what can I do in such situations if it happens again there.
Should I point it out? or just silently leave and find new ppl who dont outcast me? Why could I be outcasted, is there sth wrong with me? What am I doing wrong?
#relationships
source
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