Have you confused usefulness with significance? I have…
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Have you confused usefulness with significance?
I have spent a good portion of my life believing that being needed was a measure of my significance. Being the provider, the problem solver, the dependable one. There was something rewarding about knowing others counted on me.
But somewhere along the way, I began to recognize something about that mindset.
When we build our identity around being needed, what happens when someone no longer needs us?
Our children grow up. Relationships evolve. Careers end. People become independent. Suddenly, the very things that once made us feel important are no longer required.
And we begin questioning our value.
I have come to understand that there is a tremendous difference between being needed and being appreciated. Being needed can create a dependency. Being appreciated recognizes the value of our presence.
Think about your relationships. Are you constantly doing things for others because you genuinely want to, or because being useful makes you feel significant?
There is nothing wrong with helping, providing, or supporting others. Those can be beautiful expressions of love. But when our happiness depends on others needing us, we begin giving away our peace to circumstances we cannot control.
Our True Self doesn't require constant validation through usefulness.
Today, I encourage you to recognize something important. You don't have to earn your significance by solving everyone's problems. You can contribute to someone's life without becoming responsible for their happiness.
Because your greatest value isn't necessarily found in what you do for others.
Sometimes it's simply found in who you are when you're with them.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#worth #measure #usefulness #presence #value
Background Photo Credit:
Sid Suratia
I have spent a good portion of my life believing that being needed was a measure of my significance. Being the provider, the problem solver, the dependable one. There was something rewarding about knowing others counted on me.
But somewhere along the way, I began to recognize something about that mindset.
When we build our identity around being needed, what happens when someone no longer needs us?
Our children grow up. Relationships evolve. Careers end. People become independent. Suddenly, the very things that once made us feel important are no longer required.
And we begin questioning our value.
I have come to understand that there is a tremendous difference between being needed and being appreciated. Being needed can create a dependency. Being appreciated recognizes the value of our presence.
Think about your relationships. Are you constantly doing things for others because you genuinely want to, or because being useful makes you feel significant?
There is nothing wrong with helping, providing, or supporting others. Those can be beautiful expressions of love. But when our happiness depends on others needing us, we begin giving away our peace to circumstances we cannot control.
Our True Self doesn't require constant validation through usefulness.
Today, I encourage you to recognize something important. You don't have to earn your significance by solving everyone's problems. You can contribute to someone's life without becoming responsible for their happiness.
Because your greatest value isn't necessarily found in what you do for others.
Sometimes it's simply found in who you are when you're with them.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#worth #measure #usefulness #presence #value
Background Photo Credit:
Sid Suratia
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