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Are you valued or just needed?
I have noticed something over the years while working with people. Some of the most exhausted people I meet are also the ones everyone seems to depend on.
They are the ones who always answer the phone, solve the problems, make the sacrifices, and find a way to make things work for everyone else.
And somewhere along the way, they begin to believe their worth comes from how much they are needed.
I have learned there is a tremendous difference between being needed and being valued.
Being needed can mean someone appreciates what you do for them. Being valued means they appreciate who you are, even when you have nothing to give.
Think about that for a moment.
How often do we sacrifice our own peace because we believe disappointing someone means we are somehow less important to them?
We begin saying yes when we want to say no. We carry responsibilities that were never ours. Eventually, we become so busy meeting the expectations of others that we lose sight of our own True Self.
I believe one of the greatest things we can learn is that our value does not have to be earned through constant sacrifice.
Today, pay attention to where your energy is going. Help because you genuinely want to, not because you fear what someone might think if you don’t.
You can be compassionate and still have boundaries. You can love someone without carrying everything for them.
Your True Potential grows when you recognize that your worth exists even when you are doing absolutely nothing for anyone else.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
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Our
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#worth #measure #give #presence #value
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Priscilla Du Preez
I have noticed something over the years while working with people. Some of the most exhausted people I meet are also the ones everyone seems to depend on.
They are the ones who always answer the phone, solve the problems, make the sacrifices, and find a way to make things work for everyone else.
And somewhere along the way, they begin to believe their worth comes from how much they are needed.
I have learned there is a tremendous difference between being needed and being valued.
Being needed can mean someone appreciates what you do for them. Being valued means they appreciate who you are, even when you have nothing to give.
Think about that for a moment.
How often do we sacrifice our own peace because we believe disappointing someone means we are somehow less important to them?
We begin saying yes when we want to say no. We carry responsibilities that were never ours. Eventually, we become so busy meeting the expectations of others that we lose sight of our own True Self.
I believe one of the greatest things we can learn is that our value does not have to be earned through constant sacrifice.
Today, pay attention to where your energy is going. Help because you genuinely want to, not because you fear what someone might think if you don’t.
You can be compassionate and still have boundaries. You can love someone without carrying everything for them.
Your True Potential grows when you recognize that your worth exists even when you are doing absolutely nothing for anyone else.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#worth #measure #give #presence #value
Background Photo Credit:
Priscilla Du Preez
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What if your anxiety isn't a disorder to be cured, but a habit to be changed?
What if some of the anxiety you feel is being fed by what you do when anxiety shows up?
Think about that.
Something uncertain happens. Your mind immediately jumps into the future and starts creating scenarios. What if this happens? What if that goes wrong? What if I cannot handle it?
Before long, you are worrying about something that has not even happened.
And here is where it gets interesting.
Worry can feel productive because it gives us something to do. It creates the illusion that if we think about the problem long enough, somehow we can influence an outcome that does not even exist yet.
But worry is not preparation.
It can become a habit.
Uncertainty triggers fear. Fear triggers worrying. Worrying temporarily makes us feel like we are doing something. That temporary relief teaches the brain to repeat the process the next time uncertainty appears.
Thoughts create emotions. Emotions influence actions. Actions create results.
TEAR is happening right in front of us.
So instead of automatically following the thought, become curious about it.
Is there something I can influence right now?
If yes, take action.
If no, come back to NowHere.
You do not have to solve tomorrow from today.
The goal is not to eliminate every anxious feeling. It is to become aware of what you do with that feeling when it arrives.
Awareness creates choice.
And every time you choose curiosity over worry and presence over an imaginary future, you begin teaching your brain a different pattern.
You cannot control uncertainty.
But you can influence what you practice in its presence.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#worry #habits #curiosity #presence #peace
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Unknown
What if some of the anxiety you feel is being fed by what you do when anxiety shows up?
Think about that.
Something uncertain happens. Your mind immediately jumps into the future and starts creating scenarios. What if this happens? What if that goes wrong? What if I cannot handle it?
Before long, you are worrying about something that has not even happened.
And here is where it gets interesting.
Worry can feel productive because it gives us something to do. It creates the illusion that if we think about the problem long enough, somehow we can influence an outcome that does not even exist yet.
But worry is not preparation.
It can become a habit.
Uncertainty triggers fear. Fear triggers worrying. Worrying temporarily makes us feel like we are doing something. That temporary relief teaches the brain to repeat the process the next time uncertainty appears.
Thoughts create emotions. Emotions influence actions. Actions create results.
TEAR is happening right in front of us.
So instead of automatically following the thought, become curious about it.
Is there something I can influence right now?
If yes, take action.
If no, come back to NowHere.
You do not have to solve tomorrow from today.
The goal is not to eliminate every anxious feeling. It is to become aware of what you do with that feeling when it arrives.
Awareness creates choice.
And every time you choose curiosity over worry and presence over an imaginary future, you begin teaching your brain a different pattern.
You cannot control uncertainty.
But you can influence what you practice in its presence.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#worry #habits #curiosity #presence #peace
Background Photo Credit:
Unknown
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Are you planning your life or actually living it?
The more you overthink life, the less you actually experience it.
We convince ourselves that if we think a little longer, analyze one more possibility, or plan every detail, we will finally feel certain enough to move. But certainty rarely comes from more thinking. Too often, we create interference that keeps us stuck in our own minds while life continues without us.
There is nothing wrong with planning for tomorrow or learning from yesterday. Both can help us grow. The problem begins when the past and future steal our awareness from the only place where life can actually be experienced.
Right now.
Take the walk. Enjoy the meal. Make the call. Have the conversation. Sit quietly with someone you love. Look around and become aware of what is happening in this moment.
You do not have to understand everything before you move forward. You do not need every answer before taking the next step.
Awareness allows you to recognize when thinking has stopped serving you. Accountability reminds you that you are choosing where your attention goes. Responsibility means bringing yourself back to NowHere and taking action.
Your thoughts can influence your life, but they should never replace living it.
Stop waiting until everything makes sense.
Some answers can only be discovered through experience.
Life is not waiting somewhere in the future for you to figure it all out.
Life is happening now.
Be here for it.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#future #direction #obsession #life #presence
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David Billings
The more you overthink life, the less you actually experience it.
We convince ourselves that if we think a little longer, analyze one more possibility, or plan every detail, we will finally feel certain enough to move. But certainty rarely comes from more thinking. Too often, we create interference that keeps us stuck in our own minds while life continues without us.
There is nothing wrong with planning for tomorrow or learning from yesterday. Both can help us grow. The problem begins when the past and future steal our awareness from the only place where life can actually be experienced.
Right now.
Take the walk. Enjoy the meal. Make the call. Have the conversation. Sit quietly with someone you love. Look around and become aware of what is happening in this moment.
You do not have to understand everything before you move forward. You do not need every answer before taking the next step.
Awareness allows you to recognize when thinking has stopped serving you. Accountability reminds you that you are choosing where your attention goes. Responsibility means bringing yourself back to NowHere and taking action.
Your thoughts can influence your life, but they should never replace living it.
Stop waiting until everything makes sense.
Some answers can only be discovered through experience.
Life is not waiting somewhere in the future for you to figure it all out.
Life is happening now.
Be here for it.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#future #direction #obsession #life #presence
Background Photo Credit:
David Billings
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