How to be less of a selfish person? I just don't care…
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How to be less of a selfish person?
I just don't care about other people pretty much at all? Like a normal person sees someone doing something and gets interested in it but if it isn't something inside my narrow interests then I don't care even a little bit. I don't really know how to force myself to care or how to find people who care about my interests, but that seems to be what is required to get anyone to care about me, I have to be the one who makes the bigger effort and do more, so I can't expect other people to be interested in things I'm interested in, I have to make myself interested somehow and stop being interested in things other people don't care about.
At the same time talking to people usually doesn't seem like a good idea because I don't really have much to say that isn't something they've already heard or something they don't care about or it's something stupid or unfunny. "If you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything" kind of means I never say anything because it isn't something that people want to hear about. It also feels like trying to join in any conversation feels like me intruding where I don't belong and me suggesting anything is me trying to make everything about myself and trying to pull whatever thing they're talking about into my vision of it instead of other people's visions of it. I also feel like I can't really critique people since I can't do better myself so how would my opinion possibly be correct?
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I just don't care about other people pretty much at all? Like a normal person sees someone doing something and gets interested in it but if it isn't something inside my narrow interests then I don't care even a little bit. I don't really know how to force myself to care or how to find people who care about my interests, but that seems to be what is required to get anyone to care about me, I have to be the one who makes the bigger effort and do more, so I can't expect other people to be interested in things I'm interested in, I have to make myself interested somehow and stop being interested in things other people don't care about.
At the same time talking to people usually doesn't seem like a good idea because I don't really have much to say that isn't something they've already heard or something they don't care about or it's something stupid or unfunny. "If you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything" kind of means I never say anything because it isn't something that people want to hear about. It also feels like trying to join in any conversation feels like me intruding where I don't belong and me suggesting anything is me trying to make everything about myself and trying to pull whatever thing they're talking about into my vision of it instead of other people's visions of it. I also feel like I can't really critique people since I can't do better myself so how would my opinion possibly be correct?
#relationships
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