Where to go to meet people to get along with? I've looked…
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Where to go to meet people to get along with?
I've looked at meetups but there really isn't much that isn't far away? I don't want to go to bars since I don't want to drink, I also don't really want to go a gym since I have no interest in physical activity? But I don't really know where I could really go to meet people with interests similar to mine?
Maybe the problem is just that I have the wrong interests and need to get better ones? But I don't really know how to do that either, like I don't really know how to force myself to like sports and other things? I don't think I can really fake interest at all either, if I don't know more than basic stuff or ask more than basic questions then it's pretty obvious that I don't really care about whatever thing they're talking about. I don't really know how I would push myself into one of these circles since I don't have insightful things to say more than what they are already talking about so they wouldn't want me around anyway?
Another thing is the frequency of things, I feel like I should be around people for more than a few hours once a week, that's about the frequency of when I was in high school clubs but I feel like part of why they never went anywhere in terms of me making friends was that I wasn't really getting involved enough?
I also feel like I've never really had any close connections in any of the groups I've been in in high school or college, it kind of felt like when I'm not there they wouldn't think about me for even a moment, so I have to be going above and beyond somehow to get people who care? But I feel like if I'm the one asking personal questions or offering to do things for people then I'm just going to come off as really creepy and intrusive no matter what so I don't really know what to do there either.
#relationships
I've looked at meetups but there really isn't much that isn't far away? I don't want to go to bars since I don't want to drink, I also don't really want to go a gym since I have no interest in physical activity? But I don't really know where I could really go to meet people with interests similar to mine?
Maybe the problem is just that I have the wrong interests and need to get better ones? But I don't really know how to do that either, like I don't really know how to force myself to like sports and other things? I don't think I can really fake interest at all either, if I don't know more than basic stuff or ask more than basic questions then it's pretty obvious that I don't really care about whatever thing they're talking about. I don't really know how I would push myself into one of these circles since I don't have insightful things to say more than what they are already talking about so they wouldn't want me around anyway?
Another thing is the frequency of things, I feel like I should be around people for more than a few hours once a week, that's about the frequency of when I was in high school clubs but I feel like part of why they never went anywhere in terms of me making friends was that I wasn't really getting involved enough?
I also feel like I've never really had any close connections in any of the groups I've been in in high school or college, it kind of felt like when I'm not there they wouldn't think about me for even a moment, so I have to be going above and beyond somehow to get people who care? But I feel like if I'm the one asking personal questions or offering to do things for people then I'm just going to come off as really creepy and intrusive no matter what so I don't really know what to do there either.
#relationships
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