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Difficult to connect with people when happy in life
Hello all! I wanted to share my experience here with you and wonder if anyone else out there feels the same as me.
I am in good moment in my life and I have a strong relationship with my partner, to whom I reach out whenever I feel low or need emotional support. Life in general for me is pretty good, I am 27 year old PhD student who had the typical struggles of any young researcher out there. I also go to therapy once every two weeks.
But this is the first time in my young life. I suffered from depression in high school, where I had no friends and suffered loneliness. During my bachelor degree, my mood was better and I actually bonded with a group of people from school. When I was studied for my master degree, instead, I was very stressed and I had a depressive episode. Although I was suffering, it was during this time that I made strong connections with two people who are now closest my friends (but they live in other countries now). We were all struggling with the course and uncertainty about the future and so the context brought us together.
Now that I do my PhD and my mood is better than ever (I am confident, I am able to listen to my emotions and take time off when I feel overwhelmed) I am finding it very hard to connect with people. It seems to me that making friends was easier when I was suffering and lonely and I could empathise with people. Now I mainly just small talk, discuss and make jokes with people but I feel it is all very superficial. I can’t connect with them, to the point that I even feel bored. I am wondering if it’s because I already have a fulfilling relationship and I don’t have the need to have friends, which is sad because I used to have great laughs with friends.
Plus I have a feeling that my confidence turns people away and avoids them to be vulnerable in front of me. I am wondering if people do not want to be judged by me. I wish they could open up, I think I have a lot to offer and willingness to help people, especially because I have struggled with anxiety, low confidence and self-esteem.
So yeah, I am wondering if anyone feels the same. Maybe it is all in my head.
#relationships
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Hello all! I wanted to share my experience here with you and wonder if anyone else out there feels the same as me.
I am in good moment in my life and I have a strong relationship with my partner, to whom I reach out whenever I feel low or need emotional support. Life in general for me is pretty good, I am 27 year old PhD student who had the typical struggles of any young researcher out there. I also go to therapy once every two weeks.
But this is the first time in my young life. I suffered from depression in high school, where I had no friends and suffered loneliness. During my bachelor degree, my mood was better and I actually bonded with a group of people from school. When I was studied for my master degree, instead, I was very stressed and I had a depressive episode. Although I was suffering, it was during this time that I made strong connections with two people who are now closest my friends (but they live in other countries now). We were all struggling with the course and uncertainty about the future and so the context brought us together.
Now that I do my PhD and my mood is better than ever (I am confident, I am able to listen to my emotions and take time off when I feel overwhelmed) I am finding it very hard to connect with people. It seems to me that making friends was easier when I was suffering and lonely and I could empathise with people. Now I mainly just small talk, discuss and make jokes with people but I feel it is all very superficial. I can’t connect with them, to the point that I even feel bored. I am wondering if it’s because I already have a fulfilling relationship and I don’t have the need to have friends, which is sad because I used to have great laughs with friends.
Plus I have a feeling that my confidence turns people away and avoids them to be vulnerable in front of me. I am wondering if people do not want to be judged by me. I wish they could open up, I think I have a lot to offer and willingness to help people, especially because I have struggled with anxiety, low confidence and self-esteem.
So yeah, I am wondering if anyone feels the same. Maybe it is all in my head.
#relationships
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