Is talking normal? One thing I’ve noticed as a person. I…
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Is talking normal?
One thing I’ve noticed as a person. I am always the one initiating conversations.
Whether it’s at the gym, pool or elevator.
I don’t know what it is. Why dosent anyone talk to me first?
I was at the pool yesterday and today. People are minding themselves as they lay on that thing to catch some sun. I walked in and just asked how’s the pool. Got a couple responses and then some short conversations. Other than that everyone else I assume was quiet before I walked in (on phone, relaxing, etc)
On the elevator I’m always the one saying “what’s up” then having a decent to fun conversations as we reach our respective floors.
Today at the pool I saw an older lady. Just asked how the water was but then I stopped. I had to ask myself why am I always the one sparking conversations? Maybe people just don’t wanna talk and I am disturbing them or something.
I don’t know maybe my mentality is messed up.
I was at the bar on the weekend, a local one where it only has customers here and there in the morning. I sparked a conversation with a customer and it went really well. Once he left I just sat back. None of the bartenders talked to me. I thought bartenders were supposed to talk to people and be the “mayor” of that bar. Yet the bartender just made drinks for everyone then just carried on or talked to coworkers while no one needed anything.
I feel like if I was a bartender I’d just be talking non stop to all my customers just asking about anything.
Like I said though maybe my mentality is messed up…or maybe it isn’t. Maybe everyone is so used to their own “clicks” or social media life. That new people can seem scary.
It’s a shame. I can’t seem to make any friends but I DO talk.
#relationships
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One thing I’ve noticed as a person. I am always the one initiating conversations.
Whether it’s at the gym, pool or elevator.
I don’t know what it is. Why dosent anyone talk to me first?
I was at the pool yesterday and today. People are minding themselves as they lay on that thing to catch some sun. I walked in and just asked how’s the pool. Got a couple responses and then some short conversations. Other than that everyone else I assume was quiet before I walked in (on phone, relaxing, etc)
On the elevator I’m always the one saying “what’s up” then having a decent to fun conversations as we reach our respective floors.
Today at the pool I saw an older lady. Just asked how the water was but then I stopped. I had to ask myself why am I always the one sparking conversations? Maybe people just don’t wanna talk and I am disturbing them or something.
I don’t know maybe my mentality is messed up.
I was at the bar on the weekend, a local one where it only has customers here and there in the morning. I sparked a conversation with a customer and it went really well. Once he left I just sat back. None of the bartenders talked to me. I thought bartenders were supposed to talk to people and be the “mayor” of that bar. Yet the bartender just made drinks for everyone then just carried on or talked to coworkers while no one needed anything.
I feel like if I was a bartender I’d just be talking non stop to all my customers just asking about anything.
Like I said though maybe my mentality is messed up…or maybe it isn’t. Maybe everyone is so used to their own “clicks” or social media life. That new people can seem scary.
It’s a shame. I can’t seem to make any friends but I DO talk.
#relationships
source
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