Turning friendly Strangers to Friend? I think I'm finally…
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Turning friendly Strangers to Friend?
I think I'm finally acquiring the ability to have a nice fin conversation with a stranger. I still feel like although we're having a light-hearted conversation I still have no idea about the conversion process that turns this friendly interaction into friendship.
I'm a sophomore in uni, I started classes a week ago and will resume tomorrow. If I ever do talk to someone and we have an interesting convo, I internally feel like we're already friends yet it it appears to me that others don't share this feeling. So what typically happens is I rush to ask for the others person's number or other medium of contact after even a single conversation and often they kindve have a slightly confused reaction on their face before giving it to me (because saying no would be socially unacceptable, though I'd rather them be honest and say no). I think this is because they don't see the connection that I feel upon having a friendly conversation with a stranger. Possibly due to the fact that I'm pretty loving of all people I'd say and I genuinely feel friendship from a single interaction. Maybe I'm wrong about how they feel? I obviously only ask for a form of contact when they seem to be cool with me too.
Even once I do get their form of contact I'm not sure how to perhaps ask them to go and do something together to get to know each other. There is one guy in particular who really clicked with me and every time he spotted me on campus he was excited and went to talk to me and vice versa. He in fact asked for my number instantly and there was a genuine connection and lots of similar niche worldviews between us and he's quite cool and friendly just as I'd assume myself to be... I think I'm a good person. However, whenever we meet randomly on campus we have a very short lived two sentence conversation before he says bye and leaves, even when he's not really busy with anything. I have his number and could ask when he's free to do stuff but idk how to do it out of the blue especially considering that just like me he is pretty introverted and seemingly rather lonely not too different from myself.
So 2 questions, how do I convert a friendly stranger I meet in class into a friend, how do I take out interaction further and turn it into friendship even if we seem a little distant initially (that's how it is when you meet someone new isn't it?). And the second question, what do I do with the half-friend I mentioned before? (I consider him a friend but we never meet up as mentioned)
Thank youuu
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I think I'm finally acquiring the ability to have a nice fin conversation with a stranger. I still feel like although we're having a light-hearted conversation I still have no idea about the conversion process that turns this friendly interaction into friendship.
I'm a sophomore in uni, I started classes a week ago and will resume tomorrow. If I ever do talk to someone and we have an interesting convo, I internally feel like we're already friends yet it it appears to me that others don't share this feeling. So what typically happens is I rush to ask for the others person's number or other medium of contact after even a single conversation and often they kindve have a slightly confused reaction on their face before giving it to me (because saying no would be socially unacceptable, though I'd rather them be honest and say no). I think this is because they don't see the connection that I feel upon having a friendly conversation with a stranger. Possibly due to the fact that I'm pretty loving of all people I'd say and I genuinely feel friendship from a single interaction. Maybe I'm wrong about how they feel? I obviously only ask for a form of contact when they seem to be cool with me too.
Even once I do get their form of contact I'm not sure how to perhaps ask them to go and do something together to get to know each other. There is one guy in particular who really clicked with me and every time he spotted me on campus he was excited and went to talk to me and vice versa. He in fact asked for my number instantly and there was a genuine connection and lots of similar niche worldviews between us and he's quite cool and friendly just as I'd assume myself to be... I think I'm a good person. However, whenever we meet randomly on campus we have a very short lived two sentence conversation before he says bye and leaves, even when he's not really busy with anything. I have his number and could ask when he's free to do stuff but idk how to do it out of the blue especially considering that just like me he is pretty introverted and seemingly rather lonely not too different from myself.
So 2 questions, how do I convert a friendly stranger I meet in class into a friend, how do I take out interaction further and turn it into friendship even if we seem a little distant initially (that's how it is when you meet someone new isn't it?). And the second question, what do I do with the half-friend I mentioned before? (I consider him a friend but we never meet up as mentioned)
Thank youuu
#relationships
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