25M Genuinely, how do I act likable? I have no friends If…
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25M Genuinely, how do I act likable? I have no friends
If someone put a gun to my head and told me I have to go to a bar tonight and make one friend, I couldn’t do it. At some point long ago I forgot how to be likable. Thanks to who I grew up around and the choices I made, in recent years I’ve had my personality stomped into dust. Like, I was somewhat likable in high school, but nowadays I am a completely boring loner. Nothing comes to my head around people. If they don’t lead the conversation, it dies.
My issue is I have zero friends, I’m in a new town, I don’t have many interests. I’m busy with work and the gym, I have two coworkers that aren’t options for friends, the gym isn’t very social for a random 25 year old dude. My only real interests are electronic music, the gym, and bouldering. I have a year of experience trying and horribly failing at making friends at the bouldering gym. I just don’t know wtf to actually do to make a friend and go beyond being a random guy that talks at the gym or something.
My new town has no rock climbing. It has an active night life and rave scene which I want to get into, but I have nobody to go with, and as a super lame and awkward 25yo man going solo to raves/clubs it sounds very hard. I want to be not lame and awkward but that requires me to make friends to be invite to do things.
Practically, wtf am I supposed to do in my situation? I’ve thought about going on meetup, but the activities on there are so lame and they all look like groups of age 40+. The only other thing I can think of is joining a social sport league but I run into the same problem, I have nothing to say, I’m not likable and will just quietly play sports with other people (and probably repeat high school trauma of being picked last RIP)
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If someone put a gun to my head and told me I have to go to a bar tonight and make one friend, I couldn’t do it. At some point long ago I forgot how to be likable. Thanks to who I grew up around and the choices I made, in recent years I’ve had my personality stomped into dust. Like, I was somewhat likable in high school, but nowadays I am a completely boring loner. Nothing comes to my head around people. If they don’t lead the conversation, it dies.
My issue is I have zero friends, I’m in a new town, I don’t have many interests. I’m busy with work and the gym, I have two coworkers that aren’t options for friends, the gym isn’t very social for a random 25 year old dude. My only real interests are electronic music, the gym, and bouldering. I have a year of experience trying and horribly failing at making friends at the bouldering gym. I just don’t know wtf to actually do to make a friend and go beyond being a random guy that talks at the gym or something.
My new town has no rock climbing. It has an active night life and rave scene which I want to get into, but I have nobody to go with, and as a super lame and awkward 25yo man going solo to raves/clubs it sounds very hard. I want to be not lame and awkward but that requires me to make friends to be invite to do things.
Practically, wtf am I supposed to do in my situation? I’ve thought about going on meetup, but the activities on there are so lame and they all look like groups of age 40+. The only other thing I can think of is joining a social sport league but I run into the same problem, I have nothing to say, I’m not likable and will just quietly play sports with other people (and probably repeat high school trauma of being picked last RIP)
#relationships
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