Does anyone else replay conversations for hours after they…
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Does anyone else replay conversations for hours after they actually happened?
Something happened with a coworker today and the exchange was maybe two minutes long. I said what I said, it went fine, we both moved on.
That was this morning. I have now replayed it probably a dozen times.
Not because anything went wrong. Just because my brain keeps circling back, testing different versions, wondering if my tone landed right, if I came across the way I meant to. Running the whole thing again on a slight delay.
I've started to think this isn't really about social anxiety exactly. It's more like the conversation isn't fully finished for me until I've processed it internally. The actual exchange is step one. The mental review session is apparently mandatory step two.
What I haven't figured out is how to make the review shorter. Or how to signal to myself that something went fine and I can actually let it go. The conversation is over but something in me is still in the room.
Does anyone else feel like interactions live longer inside your head than they did in real life?
#relationships
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Something happened with a coworker today and the exchange was maybe two minutes long. I said what I said, it went fine, we both moved on.
That was this morning. I have now replayed it probably a dozen times.
Not because anything went wrong. Just because my brain keeps circling back, testing different versions, wondering if my tone landed right, if I came across the way I meant to. Running the whole thing again on a slight delay.
I've started to think this isn't really about social anxiety exactly. It's more like the conversation isn't fully finished for me until I've processed it internally. The actual exchange is step one. The mental review session is apparently mandatory step two.
What I haven't figured out is how to make the review shorter. Or how to signal to myself that something went fine and I can actually let it go. The conversation is over but something in me is still in the room.
Does anyone else feel like interactions live longer inside your head than they did in real life?
#relationships
source
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