How to handle hot and cold behaviour as a socially anxious…
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How to handle hot and cold behaviour as a socially anxious person?
So there was a new girl who joined my workplace and I was intimidated since she comes off as secure & confident but I was telling myself I should try to talk to her
We got somewhat closer sharing jokes and backstories, still a bit awkward around each other (my own fault) but she agreed to one-to-ones and I was starting to feel like we could be friends
For some reason, she is beginning to be snarky / scoffs when I bring up a hobby / situations I end up in and completely ignoring me when I say hello or goodbye or start a convo, she ignores/lets it die in favour of talking to other people at work.. I sometimes feel she is judging me but this might be projection based off my anxiety
I am a bit surprised and pulled back thinking maybe I was too much but surprisingly she started taking more initiative with me but when I responded, she again disappears... She is also still having trouble fitting into the group at work and despite me being an introvert, the group invites me to events but not her even though she expressed wanting to join and I've tried including her in these group conversations / events with the others so idk whats up with her being borderline rude to me after I've tried so hard to be inclusive
I feel I must be doing smth wrong socially and maybe too eager? How would people try to reset the relationship? I've alrdy asked her if we were cool and she said yes we are but it doesnt feel like it
#relationships
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So there was a new girl who joined my workplace and I was intimidated since she comes off as secure & confident but I was telling myself I should try to talk to her
We got somewhat closer sharing jokes and backstories, still a bit awkward around each other (my own fault) but she agreed to one-to-ones and I was starting to feel like we could be friends
For some reason, she is beginning to be snarky / scoffs when I bring up a hobby / situations I end up in and completely ignoring me when I say hello or goodbye or start a convo, she ignores/lets it die in favour of talking to other people at work.. I sometimes feel she is judging me but this might be projection based off my anxiety
I am a bit surprised and pulled back thinking maybe I was too much but surprisingly she started taking more initiative with me but when I responded, she again disappears... She is also still having trouble fitting into the group at work and despite me being an introvert, the group invites me to events but not her even though she expressed wanting to join and I've tried including her in these group conversations / events with the others so idk whats up with her being borderline rude to me after I've tried so hard to be inclusive
I feel I must be doing smth wrong socially and maybe too eager? How would people try to reset the relationship? I've alrdy asked her if we were cool and she said yes we are but it doesnt feel like it
#relationships
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