The #1 Tip that will change your entire life At 13 years…
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The #1 Tip that will change your entire life
At 13 years old I witnessed a man give a talk at my youth group that had everyone in the room eating from the palms of his hands. It was electric, I had never seen someone talk in such a way that commanded everyone’s attention. This kick started an obsession with charisma, social skills & public speaking.
I’ve since then tried to learn everything I can about how to be charismatic & how to improve my socials skills & if I had to pass on one piece of advice that has made the biggest change in my life I’d condense it to the following
‘The most interesting people, are those most interested.’
This boils down to 2 key ideas
1. Be interested in the person you’re communicating with.
Not in a ‘how to win friends & influence people way’ (forced behavior to draw a specific outcome) but from a genuine perspective. Listen to the person you’re talking to, not to respon but to understand. Ask questions about areas that interest you, share stories that relate to what they’re saying & get lost in the conversation.
2. Be interested in life.
Have hobbies, do things that appeal to you specifically & go deep in 4-7 areas. Having genuine interests in life, will allow you to speak on various topics & make connections between separate domains that will help you relate to others. I cannot stress how much passion will change your conversations. We’ve likely all witnessed someone speak with undulating passion & have witnessed just how charismatic & charming they are to listen to simply because they spoke with raw passion. They likely don’t even realize how enjoyable they are to listen to when speaking about their passions & guess what? That also applies to you. So have passion!!! It makes life worth living.
I realize point 2 is more so life advice than specifics social advice but I really am (excuse the emphasis) passionate about this topic!
I find a lot of the questions socially anxious people have can be solved by 1 of the 2 concepts above
Questions like what do I say, how am I supposed to act, how am I supposed to react, how do I know what to talk about etc tend to naturally get resolved when you take the focus off of yourself & again are INTERESTED in the other party & in life.
Anyways, excuse the rant, apologies for the formatting but I really do hope this helps
#relationships
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At 13 years old I witnessed a man give a talk at my youth group that had everyone in the room eating from the palms of his hands. It was electric, I had never seen someone talk in such a way that commanded everyone’s attention. This kick started an obsession with charisma, social skills & public speaking.
I’ve since then tried to learn everything I can about how to be charismatic & how to improve my socials skills & if I had to pass on one piece of advice that has made the biggest change in my life I’d condense it to the following
‘The most interesting people, are those most interested.’
This boils down to 2 key ideas
1. Be interested in the person you’re communicating with.
Not in a ‘how to win friends & influence people way’ (forced behavior to draw a specific outcome) but from a genuine perspective. Listen to the person you’re talking to, not to respon but to understand. Ask questions about areas that interest you, share stories that relate to what they’re saying & get lost in the conversation.
2. Be interested in life.
Have hobbies, do things that appeal to you specifically & go deep in 4-7 areas. Having genuine interests in life, will allow you to speak on various topics & make connections between separate domains that will help you relate to others. I cannot stress how much passion will change your conversations. We’ve likely all witnessed someone speak with undulating passion & have witnessed just how charismatic & charming they are to listen to simply because they spoke with raw passion. They likely don’t even realize how enjoyable they are to listen to when speaking about their passions & guess what? That also applies to you. So have passion!!! It makes life worth living.
I realize point 2 is more so life advice than specifics social advice but I really am (excuse the emphasis) passionate about this topic!
I find a lot of the questions socially anxious people have can be solved by 1 of the 2 concepts above
Questions like what do I say, how am I supposed to act, how am I supposed to react, how do I know what to talk about etc tend to naturally get resolved when you take the focus off of yourself & again are INTERESTED in the other party & in life.
Anyways, excuse the rant, apologies for the formatting but I really do hope this helps
#relationships
source
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