Have you ever had a friend that points out every habit…
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Have you ever had a friend that points out every habit that you have?
I’ve had this close friend for about a year and I’ve only just now realized that whenever we hang out, she always mentions a habit of mine that I never realized I had. And I know she doesn’t mean it in a hurtful way but sometimes she points it out in a very judgmental way. For reference, I’m 98% I’m neurodivergent. I either am overly aware of social cues or I miss them completely. And today she kept mentioning things like I couldn’t read the room, that I respond to things a bit delayed, that she can’t understand me. I listen very intently when people talk but I also told her that I have a bad ear and she talks very quietly, but she swears I’m ignoring her on purpose. Idk it’s just little things.
It’s starting to make me feel like I’m a weird person. Her and I are very different, which can be good but lately I’ve been very self conscious with everything she’s pointed out about me because I’m worried it annoys her. I know I’ve always been a bit different and sometimes I can act weird. It’s really making me miss my best friend who moved away from college because we’re both weird and she gets me. It’s hard having friends who aren’t used to the way you are. It makes me feel like I have to apologize for being an inconvenience.
I do have weird habits. Sometimes I can’t read the room, sometimes I react slowly and sometimes I can’t make up my mind on where I want to eat. But I don’t like having all of these things pointed out to me like they’re a nuisance.
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I’ve had this close friend for about a year and I’ve only just now realized that whenever we hang out, she always mentions a habit of mine that I never realized I had. And I know she doesn’t mean it in a hurtful way but sometimes she points it out in a very judgmental way. For reference, I’m 98% I’m neurodivergent. I either am overly aware of social cues or I miss them completely. And today she kept mentioning things like I couldn’t read the room, that I respond to things a bit delayed, that she can’t understand me. I listen very intently when people talk but I also told her that I have a bad ear and she talks very quietly, but she swears I’m ignoring her on purpose. Idk it’s just little things.
It’s starting to make me feel like I’m a weird person. Her and I are very different, which can be good but lately I’ve been very self conscious with everything she’s pointed out about me because I’m worried it annoys her. I know I’ve always been a bit different and sometimes I can act weird. It’s really making me miss my best friend who moved away from college because we’re both weird and she gets me. It’s hard having friends who aren’t used to the way you are. It makes me feel like I have to apologize for being an inconvenience.
I do have weird habits. Sometimes I can’t read the room, sometimes I react slowly and sometimes I can’t make up my mind on where I want to eat. But I don’t like having all of these things pointed out to me like they’re a nuisance.
#relationships
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