Feeling like nobody warms to you / likes you? I'm quite…
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Feeling like nobody warms to you / likes you?
I'm quite introverted and lacked social skills growing up due to isolation, bad examples, adhd, but as an adult now almost 30, every time I've moved house for example, i can never make or stay friends with housemates or neighbours. This is a normal scenario where people meet and might even make friends for life.
i moved to this new place several months ago, and wanted to push myself out of the comfort zone. One flatmate (A) suggested we all go for welcome drinks - nobody went except me and that person.
We then met some neighbours who invited us over. Me and one other flatmate (B - a different one) went together twice, i bought some drinks to take, and it was a nice way to hang out. But the neighbours only took the flatmate's number and messaged her for future invites or to chat. The neighbours also are not super friendly if i bump into them going in and out to work or whatever. Barely a hi.
This housemate B is moving out in a couple of weeks, but i can see on whatsapp she's already deleted my number. I can't think of anything i did wrong or to offend anyone, i just tried to be chill, present, and friendly. Maybe a bit awkward but i don't think that's the worst thing you can be personally
The other housemates have had their own arguments amongst each other and it's now a tense uncomfortable house environment. The most erratic person (C) is being frosty with me and barely looks at me if we bump into each other even though i didn't do anything to them?
Am i weird for expecting a bit more warmth or like decency from people in these situations? Should I have done anything differently?
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I'm quite introverted and lacked social skills growing up due to isolation, bad examples, adhd, but as an adult now almost 30, every time I've moved house for example, i can never make or stay friends with housemates or neighbours. This is a normal scenario where people meet and might even make friends for life.
i moved to this new place several months ago, and wanted to push myself out of the comfort zone. One flatmate (A) suggested we all go for welcome drinks - nobody went except me and that person.
We then met some neighbours who invited us over. Me and one other flatmate (B - a different one) went together twice, i bought some drinks to take, and it was a nice way to hang out. But the neighbours only took the flatmate's number and messaged her for future invites or to chat. The neighbours also are not super friendly if i bump into them going in and out to work or whatever. Barely a hi.
This housemate B is moving out in a couple of weeks, but i can see on whatsapp she's already deleted my number. I can't think of anything i did wrong or to offend anyone, i just tried to be chill, present, and friendly. Maybe a bit awkward but i don't think that's the worst thing you can be personally
The other housemates have had their own arguments amongst each other and it's now a tense uncomfortable house environment. The most erratic person (C) is being frosty with me and barely looks at me if we bump into each other even though i didn't do anything to them?
Am i weird for expecting a bit more warmth or like decency from people in these situations? Should I have done anything differently?
#relationships
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