Stuck at a friend weekend with a conversation killing…
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Stuck at a friend weekend with a conversation killing, tiresome bore.
I've got social skills, but there's nothing I can do with this. I'm at a long weekend away with friends and a friend of a friend is sucking the life out of the group dynamic.
Anything, absolutely anything that anyone says, will be redirected to be about this person.
"There's a great coffee shop in town," becomes "I had great coffee when I was visiting (someplace else). And on and on.
If I redirect back to the original conversation, she'll speed up, talk with more urgency, and continue with some personal anecdote, her reaction at the time, and then a nervous laugh, because no one has anything to add to her hijacked, self absorbed tangents and she has to fill in the awkward silence by herself.
No conversation can get off the ground, any time anyone starts talking about anything she drives the conversation into a ditch, and the worst part is how exhausting it is. It makes us all irritated and sucks the life out of everyone's energy. She's content if no one says anything, but once someone speaks, she's there to jump in and kill the group vibe.
I'm just not used to fighting this kind of final boss. I guess I just had to vent. I can't really avoid her since we are doing things in a big group, meals and outings.
Edit to respect group rules: Any advice welcome and appreciated. I just don't know how to navigate this.
#relationships
I've got social skills, but there's nothing I can do with this. I'm at a long weekend away with friends and a friend of a friend is sucking the life out of the group dynamic.
Anything, absolutely anything that anyone says, will be redirected to be about this person.
"There's a great coffee shop in town," becomes "I had great coffee when I was visiting (someplace else). And on and on.
If I redirect back to the original conversation, she'll speed up, talk with more urgency, and continue with some personal anecdote, her reaction at the time, and then a nervous laugh, because no one has anything to add to her hijacked, self absorbed tangents and she has to fill in the awkward silence by herself.
No conversation can get off the ground, any time anyone starts talking about anything she drives the conversation into a ditch, and the worst part is how exhausting it is. It makes us all irritated and sucks the life out of everyone's energy. She's content if no one says anything, but once someone speaks, she's there to jump in and kill the group vibe.
I'm just not used to fighting this kind of final boss. I guess I just had to vent. I can't really avoid her since we are doing things in a big group, meals and outings.
Edit to respect group rules: Any advice welcome and appreciated. I just don't know how to navigate this.
#relationships
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