This one hurt. Floater friend I am a floater friend. On…
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This one hurt. Floater friend
I am a floater friend. On the periphery of several groups so I get invited to bigger gatherings but not to the intimate ones. I’ve tried showing up, engaging in conversation, etc, and everyone seems to like me but I still remain here. There are at least a few in the groups who I’m closer to than others; and I think they like me as well, but they seem to be content with their smaller groups and don’t make an effort to include me there.
Well one such friend had a party yesterday and I wasn’t invited. From the pictures it wasn’t an intimate gathering - it was big enough that I would have expected an invite, and especially because I do consider myself closer to her than others in that group. But apparently she doesn’t see it that way. Some of the people she invited I didn’t think she was close to at all. And I invited her to a gathering a month ago which she attended.
I don’t want to say anything to her because it’ll make me look like a pathetic loser. But it really hurt. I’ve been excluded a ton before and it’s started getting to me, but this one was really hurtful because I didn’t think she would. My husband thinks she may have just forgotten me but honestly that doesn’t make it better.
What would you do? It is so demoralizing that I really feel like giving up and not making an effort any more anywhere at all. Which of course will make the whole thing worse because I’ll be left out even more.
#relationships
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I am a floater friend. On the periphery of several groups so I get invited to bigger gatherings but not to the intimate ones. I’ve tried showing up, engaging in conversation, etc, and everyone seems to like me but I still remain here. There are at least a few in the groups who I’m closer to than others; and I think they like me as well, but they seem to be content with their smaller groups and don’t make an effort to include me there.
Well one such friend had a party yesterday and I wasn’t invited. From the pictures it wasn’t an intimate gathering - it was big enough that I would have expected an invite, and especially because I do consider myself closer to her than others in that group. But apparently she doesn’t see it that way. Some of the people she invited I didn’t think she was close to at all. And I invited her to a gathering a month ago which she attended.
I don’t want to say anything to her because it’ll make me look like a pathetic loser. But it really hurt. I’ve been excluded a ton before and it’s started getting to me, but this one was really hurtful because I didn’t think she would. My husband thinks she may have just forgotten me but honestly that doesn’t make it better.
What would you do? It is so demoralizing that I really feel like giving up and not making an effort any more anywhere at all. Which of course will make the whole thing worse because I’ll be left out even more.
#relationships
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