How to join an existing friend group? So I’m not really a…
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How to join an existing friend group?
So I’m not really a super outgoing or social person. But I really miss having a group of close friends that I can do things with (go on holiday, go to the movies, go out for a drink or go out to dinner)
I’ve never really had that other than when I was in secondary school (high school) I lost contact with my school mates. Went to uni and found what I thought were a really nice set of friends but ever since I’ve left uni and most of them still have a year or 2 I don’t see them that often and I don’t really get invited out. I joined a society there that I didn’t really know much about and only used to play when I was younger. So when watching professionals of that sport play and they talk about and have all this knowledge it’s so hard to get in on the conversation. We went away for the weekend when the sports professional season was on and because ordinarily when we’d all be at uni I’d know the inside jokes and the drama so there would be a lot to talk about but now because I’m so out the loop and I don’t know as much about the sport it was actually really hard to strike up a conversation with some of them which was really weird and I felt like our friendship was very artificial. Well I feel like they’ve maybe clocked that because I feel like I’m being phased out a bit. Our group chat is completely dead because the core of the group doesn’t like a couple of people because they’re annoying. But yet I see the main lot go out and watch cricket or going out and I haven’t been invited since that weeekend away and it makes me feel like shit because I haven’t really done anything wrong.
So now I’m basically accepted it and sort of like fuck you to them. If they want to reach out they can. But I joined this job and my sister, her friend and my sisters friend boyfriend works there. And me and my sisters friend boyfriend (let’s call him Jeremy) have got on well. However I still struggle to be myself around him. Like he’s really nice and stuff. But like coming up with things to say and being myself I always struggle with even with people I like. Well anyway. He’s invited me to paddle. And he invited me to watch the World Cup game yesterday and my sisters friend invited my sister and some of her friends. Well Jeremy has a really cool friend group. Who all like the sport I know a lot about. Seem a little nerdy like me or at least like know about pop culture and funny meme references (I know that’s a little cringe when I put it like that) and seem just like a good laugh. And I don’t want to force my way into anything but I’m quite shy around new people and I also feel like I’m bad at having the second or their conversation with someone.
For example Ill do the whole “where you from, how do you know Jeremy, etc etc etc and we’ll have a really good half hour conversation but after that I just feel like I run out of things to say kinda thing. And I just really struggle with that
Basically asking for advice for a multitude of things
#relationships
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So I’m not really a super outgoing or social person. But I really miss having a group of close friends that I can do things with (go on holiday, go to the movies, go out for a drink or go out to dinner)
I’ve never really had that other than when I was in secondary school (high school) I lost contact with my school mates. Went to uni and found what I thought were a really nice set of friends but ever since I’ve left uni and most of them still have a year or 2 I don’t see them that often and I don’t really get invited out. I joined a society there that I didn’t really know much about and only used to play when I was younger. So when watching professionals of that sport play and they talk about and have all this knowledge it’s so hard to get in on the conversation. We went away for the weekend when the sports professional season was on and because ordinarily when we’d all be at uni I’d know the inside jokes and the drama so there would be a lot to talk about but now because I’m so out the loop and I don’t know as much about the sport it was actually really hard to strike up a conversation with some of them which was really weird and I felt like our friendship was very artificial. Well I feel like they’ve maybe clocked that because I feel like I’m being phased out a bit. Our group chat is completely dead because the core of the group doesn’t like a couple of people because they’re annoying. But yet I see the main lot go out and watch cricket or going out and I haven’t been invited since that weeekend away and it makes me feel like shit because I haven’t really done anything wrong.
So now I’m basically accepted it and sort of like fuck you to them. If they want to reach out they can. But I joined this job and my sister, her friend and my sisters friend boyfriend works there. And me and my sisters friend boyfriend (let’s call him Jeremy) have got on well. However I still struggle to be myself around him. Like he’s really nice and stuff. But like coming up with things to say and being myself I always struggle with even with people I like. Well anyway. He’s invited me to paddle. And he invited me to watch the World Cup game yesterday and my sisters friend invited my sister and some of her friends. Well Jeremy has a really cool friend group. Who all like the sport I know a lot about. Seem a little nerdy like me or at least like know about pop culture and funny meme references (I know that’s a little cringe when I put it like that) and seem just like a good laugh. And I don’t want to force my way into anything but I’m quite shy around new people and I also feel like I’m bad at having the second or their conversation with someone.
For example Ill do the whole “where you from, how do you know Jeremy, etc etc etc and we’ll have a really good half hour conversation but after that I just feel like I run out of things to say kinda thing. And I just really struggle with that
Basically asking for advice for a multitude of things
#relationships
source
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