Conventional dating advice to guys says to focus on…
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Conventional dating advice to guys says to focus on improving themselves. I feel without social exposure, this advice is meaningless
The conventional advice given to men who are single seems to be to "work on themselves, hit the gym, get a better paying job etc".
But in all honesty this advice is **pretty meaningless for relationship building**, considering the major bottleneck is actually exposure and meeting new people. For example Tim a 35 year old accountant, hits the gym, gets jacked and gets promoted, but still remains single because he doesn't socialise, sticks to his usual friend group and/or relies on apps alone.
I think such advice can be damaging, especially when men's sole drive for self-improvement becomes the aspiration for a relationship.
Plenty of broke, crazy, mediocre men end up in happy and stable relationships not because they are the best, but because they put themselves out there and were at the right place at the right time.
Yes, self improvement is beneficial, of course it is, but it's no guarantee to a relationship
#relationships
The conventional advice given to men who are single seems to be to "work on themselves, hit the gym, get a better paying job etc".
But in all honesty this advice is **pretty meaningless for relationship building**, considering the major bottleneck is actually exposure and meeting new people. For example Tim a 35 year old accountant, hits the gym, gets jacked and gets promoted, but still remains single because he doesn't socialise, sticks to his usual friend group and/or relies on apps alone.
I think such advice can be damaging, especially when men's sole drive for self-improvement becomes the aspiration for a relationship.
Plenty of broke, crazy, mediocre men end up in happy and stable relationships not because they are the best, but because they put themselves out there and were at the right place at the right time.
Yes, self improvement is beneficial, of course it is, but it's no guarantee to a relationship
#relationships
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