Should I tell my friend that I want to hook up with him…
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Should I tell my friend that I want to hook up with him again?
I (30F) slept with someone in my extended friend group (33M) after a house party on Saturday night. I’ve known him for a while and I’ve always found him attractive, but I had no idea that the feeling was mutual. It was my first time having sex with anyone since breaking up with my ex in January. With my ex, sex was bland, infrequent, and I never felt desired (he would never compliment me or dirty talk, and he couldn’t even finish through sex: only if he jerked himself off). I’m an extremely sexual person, but with him, my needs never felt met.
With this guy, it was the total opposite. It was passionate, superrr kinky, and he made it very clear how insatiably attracted he is to me. We ended up going for two rounds in one night, which I’ve never done before in my life. He also cuddled me and was very affectionate and sweet with me after, which I really liked because I’m just so used to feeling like an object after sex.
While we were cuddling, he ended up saying to me how much he enjoyed it and how he could envision us having “a lot of sex” in the future. I told him that I was down for that. Honestly, this is an absolutely ideal situation for me… I’m extremely attracted to him and I like him as a friend, but romantically we aren’t compatible for a variety of reasons. I also have zero desire to date anyone seriously right now. Long story short, this guy is a perfect candidate for a casual situation.
HOWEVER, we were both drunk that night, and I’m worried that he didn’t actually mean anything he said. That it was actually just a one off thing for him and he has no intention for it to happen again. He has texted me since (and he texted first), but hasn’t said anything about us meeting up again. I don’t know how to proceed from here. I really, REALLY want to sleep with him again. But I don’t want to come across as desperate or annoying. I can just envision him seeing a message from me and rolling his eyes. But I also don’t want to let this opportunity slip through my fingers without even trying at least. So what should I do? Should I text him just saying hey and see how he responds? Should I just be direct to the point and ask him if he wants to come over to my place? Or shall I just let it go? All and any thoughts would be appreciated, thank you :)
TLDR: had sex with one of my friends and it was incredible. How can I let him know that I want it to happen again?
UPDATE: I decided to just be direct with him so I texted him telling him that I had a lot of fun and asking if he’s down to come over sometime. He said “Absolutely”. He’s currently abroad for work but we’ve made plans to meet when he’s back. Thank you so much for your advice everyone! I wouldn’t have had the courage to text him if it wasn’t for you guys 🥺
He’s to having much more great sex hahaha
#relationships
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I (30F) slept with someone in my extended friend group (33M) after a house party on Saturday night. I’ve known him for a while and I’ve always found him attractive, but I had no idea that the feeling was mutual. It was my first time having sex with anyone since breaking up with my ex in January. With my ex, sex was bland, infrequent, and I never felt desired (he would never compliment me or dirty talk, and he couldn’t even finish through sex: only if he jerked himself off). I’m an extremely sexual person, but with him, my needs never felt met.
With this guy, it was the total opposite. It was passionate, superrr kinky, and he made it very clear how insatiably attracted he is to me. We ended up going for two rounds in one night, which I’ve never done before in my life. He also cuddled me and was very affectionate and sweet with me after, which I really liked because I’m just so used to feeling like an object after sex.
While we were cuddling, he ended up saying to me how much he enjoyed it and how he could envision us having “a lot of sex” in the future. I told him that I was down for that. Honestly, this is an absolutely ideal situation for me… I’m extremely attracted to him and I like him as a friend, but romantically we aren’t compatible for a variety of reasons. I also have zero desire to date anyone seriously right now. Long story short, this guy is a perfect candidate for a casual situation.
HOWEVER, we were both drunk that night, and I’m worried that he didn’t actually mean anything he said. That it was actually just a one off thing for him and he has no intention for it to happen again. He has texted me since (and he texted first), but hasn’t said anything about us meeting up again. I don’t know how to proceed from here. I really, REALLY want to sleep with him again. But I don’t want to come across as desperate or annoying. I can just envision him seeing a message from me and rolling his eyes. But I also don’t want to let this opportunity slip through my fingers without even trying at least. So what should I do? Should I text him just saying hey and see how he responds? Should I just be direct to the point and ask him if he wants to come over to my place? Or shall I just let it go? All and any thoughts would be appreciated, thank you :)
TLDR: had sex with one of my friends and it was incredible. How can I let him know that I want it to happen again?
UPDATE: I decided to just be direct with him so I texted him telling him that I had a lot of fun and asking if he’s down to come over sometime. He said “Absolutely”. He’s currently abroad for work but we’ve made plans to meet when he’s back. Thank you so much for your advice everyone! I wouldn’t have had the courage to text him if it wasn’t for you guys 🥺
He’s to having much more great sex hahaha
#relationships
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