I realized I've been ending conversations early because I…
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I realized I've been ending conversations early because I assume the other person is bored of me.
And I dont know when this started.
I'll be talking to someone and things seem fine.
But at some point I get this feeling that I've been talking too long or that the other person is just waiting for me to stop.
So I wrap it up.
I say something like "anyway, I'll let you go" or "I don't want to keep you."
And then I leave, or change the subject, or go quiet.
I thought I was being considerate.
But recently a friend told me that I always seem like I'm in a hurry to leave, and that sometimes it feels like I don't actually want to talk to her.
That hit me kind of hard.
Because the truth is the opposite.
I like talking to her.
I like talking to most people.
I just convince myself they don't feel the same way.
So I cut it short before they can.
I've been doing this for years probably.
With friends.
With coworkers.
Even with family sometimes.
And I wonder how many times someone thought I wasn't interested when I actually was.
Has anyone else done this or still does it?
And how do you learn to just stay in a conversation without assuming the worst?
#relationships
And I dont know when this started.
I'll be talking to someone and things seem fine.
But at some point I get this feeling that I've been talking too long or that the other person is just waiting for me to stop.
So I wrap it up.
I say something like "anyway, I'll let you go" or "I don't want to keep you."
And then I leave, or change the subject, or go quiet.
I thought I was being considerate.
But recently a friend told me that I always seem like I'm in a hurry to leave, and that sometimes it feels like I don't actually want to talk to her.
That hit me kind of hard.
Because the truth is the opposite.
I like talking to her.
I like talking to most people.
I just convince myself they don't feel the same way.
So I cut it short before they can.
I've been doing this for years probably.
With friends.
With coworkers.
Even with family sometimes.
And I wonder how many times someone thought I wasn't interested when I actually was.
Has anyone else done this or still does it?
And how do you learn to just stay in a conversation without assuming the worst?
#relationships
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