stopped trying to be liked and started trying to be…
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stopped trying to be liked and started trying to be interesting....kind of changed everything...
for a long time i was softening everything. opinions, personality, how much space i took up in conversations. just keeping it vague enough that nobody would push back....and it worked i guess? people seemed comfortable around me. but i was so forgettable. i could feel it happening in real time.
eventually got tired of it and just started saying what i actually thought. sharing things i was genuinely into without the little internal check of "is this cool enough." disagreeing when i disagreed.
some people found it off-putting. okay.
but the conversations i started having after that were so different. more real. more people actually remembering things i said. more feeling like i was present in my own life instead of just watching it.
being likeable is a performance you maintain forever. being interesting is just being honest. one of those is exhausting and one of them isn't.
#inspiration
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for a long time i was softening everything. opinions, personality, how much space i took up in conversations. just keeping it vague enough that nobody would push back....and it worked i guess? people seemed comfortable around me. but i was so forgettable. i could feel it happening in real time.
eventually got tired of it and just started saying what i actually thought. sharing things i was genuinely into without the little internal check of "is this cool enough." disagreeing when i disagreed.
some people found it off-putting. okay.
but the conversations i started having after that were so different. more real. more people actually remembering things i said. more feeling like i was present in my own life instead of just watching it.
being likeable is a performance you maintain forever. being interesting is just being honest. one of those is exhausting and one of them isn't.
#inspiration
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