how do you celebrate mother’s day when she’s gone? a…
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how do you celebrate mother’s day when she’s gone?
a friend of mine lost his mom last year, and mother’s day used to be a big thing for him. he’d plan gifts, call early, make sure she felt appreciated in a real, intentional way. yesterday he came over and asked me, very simply, what am i supposed to do this year? not dramatic, just honest. he said he’s been trying to treat it like a normal day, stay busy, not think about it too much, but it’s not working.
what’s hitting him the hardest isn’t just missing her, it’s the habit of loving her in that specific way. he used to *do* something. pick a gift, write a message, show up. now there’s nowhere for that energy to go, and it’s leaving this weird empty space. like all that care is still there, but it has no direction anymore, and pretending the day doesn’t matter just makes it worse.
i didn’t really have a perfect answer, but i told him maybe it doesn’t have to disappear just because she’s gone. maybe he can still write her something, or do something she loved, or even give a gift in her name. not to replace anything, just to give that love somewhere to land. if you’ve gone through this, how did you handle days like this?
#inspiration
a friend of mine lost his mom last year, and mother’s day used to be a big thing for him. he’d plan gifts, call early, make sure she felt appreciated in a real, intentional way. yesterday he came over and asked me, very simply, what am i supposed to do this year? not dramatic, just honest. he said he’s been trying to treat it like a normal day, stay busy, not think about it too much, but it’s not working.
what’s hitting him the hardest isn’t just missing her, it’s the habit of loving her in that specific way. he used to *do* something. pick a gift, write a message, show up. now there’s nowhere for that energy to go, and it’s leaving this weird empty space. like all that care is still there, but it has no direction anymore, and pretending the day doesn’t matter just makes it worse.
i didn’t really have a perfect answer, but i told him maybe it doesn’t have to disappear just because she’s gone. maybe he can still write her something, or do something she loved, or even give a gift in her name. not to replace anything, just to give that love somewhere to land. if you’ve gone through this, how did you handle days like this?
#inspiration
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