Struggling with my attitude toward blah conversations It…
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Struggling with my attitude toward blah conversations
It seems that most of us have experienced a lot of dud conversations. Not asking questions back, short responses, being just generally dull. Something I’ve learned from past relationships is that I really need to feel mutual interest and effort, so my instinct is to bow out of these conversations as soon as I get that vibe.
However, I’m trying to keep an open mind about other peoples’ social habits. The best example is that I am a natural conversationalist; I’m quite curious about other people and I’m pretty good at keeping a conversation flowing. I’m trying to remember that a lot of people need time to warm up into the conversation (whether by nature or due to bad experiences.) I understand that some people just don’t like to text, and this would be an incompatibility for me.
So I want to be patient and give it a good try with each match, but I’m struggling to find the line between giving grace and wasting my time with one-sided conversations. I’m finding myself wanting to be petty and snarky and that’s not who I aim to be.
There’s a general rule of only responding with a statement if two questions go unreciprocated (they don’t have to ask it back, but let it flow into a conversation at least.) I don’t like to follow rules like this generally; I think human interaction is a bit too complicated for such a tidy rule. Curious to know where you draw the line and how you protect your time and energy with this! Thanks in advance!
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It seems that most of us have experienced a lot of dud conversations. Not asking questions back, short responses, being just generally dull. Something I’ve learned from past relationships is that I really need to feel mutual interest and effort, so my instinct is to bow out of these conversations as soon as I get that vibe.
However, I’m trying to keep an open mind about other peoples’ social habits. The best example is that I am a natural conversationalist; I’m quite curious about other people and I’m pretty good at keeping a conversation flowing. I’m trying to remember that a lot of people need time to warm up into the conversation (whether by nature or due to bad experiences.) I understand that some people just don’t like to text, and this would be an incompatibility for me.
So I want to be patient and give it a good try with each match, but I’m struggling to find the line between giving grace and wasting my time with one-sided conversations. I’m finding myself wanting to be petty and snarky and that’s not who I aim to be.
There’s a general rule of only responding with a statement if two questions go unreciprocated (they don’t have to ask it back, but let it flow into a conversation at least.) I don’t like to follow rules like this generally; I think human interaction is a bit too complicated for such a tidy rule. Curious to know where you draw the line and how you protect your time and energy with this! Thanks in advance!
#relationships
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