Just ended my relationship Hi everyone, I ended my…
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Just ended my relationship
Hi everyone,
I ended my relationship today after two months of dating someone who actually treated me very well and I feel so much shame. When I was with this woman things were good. We could carry a conversation, had good sex, and enjoyed each others company. So what was the problem? When we were apart I just didn’t feel a deep connection. I didn’t think about her much, didn’t feel a pull, and didn’t feel excitement about the prospect of seeing her. She showed me nothing but consistency and kindness and that’s why I stuck around because I genuinely hoped that things would change but today I accepted that wasn’t going to happen.
I’m sharing this story because I’ve never been in such a confusing situation where I genuinely can’t determine why I didn’t feel a pull towards this person and I could really use some advice. I start seeing a new therapist in a couple of weeks and there’s so much I want to unpack. Is this avoidance? Incompatibility? Etc. What makes this dynamic even more confusing is the woman I dated before her was the complete opposite situation. She was very sweet as well, but she was recently divorced and would pull away when we started to get close. We would talk on the phone for hours and I genuinely couldn’t wait to see her and talk to her about her day.
I feel like shit for being so drawn to somebody I couldn’t fully have and completely emotionally uninvested towards someone who treated me so well.
#relationships
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Hi everyone,
I ended my relationship today after two months of dating someone who actually treated me very well and I feel so much shame. When I was with this woman things were good. We could carry a conversation, had good sex, and enjoyed each others company. So what was the problem? When we were apart I just didn’t feel a deep connection. I didn’t think about her much, didn’t feel a pull, and didn’t feel excitement about the prospect of seeing her. She showed me nothing but consistency and kindness and that’s why I stuck around because I genuinely hoped that things would change but today I accepted that wasn’t going to happen.
I’m sharing this story because I’ve never been in such a confusing situation where I genuinely can’t determine why I didn’t feel a pull towards this person and I could really use some advice. I start seeing a new therapist in a couple of weeks and there’s so much I want to unpack. Is this avoidance? Incompatibility? Etc. What makes this dynamic even more confusing is the woman I dated before her was the complete opposite situation. She was very sweet as well, but she was recently divorced and would pull away when we started to get close. We would talk on the phone for hours and I genuinely couldn’t wait to see her and talk to her about her day.
I feel like shit for being so drawn to somebody I couldn’t fully have and completely emotionally uninvested towards someone who treated me so well.
#relationships
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