Why do my friends only hang out with me in groups, not…
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Why do my friends only hang out with me in groups, not one-on-one?
I’ve noticed this for a while and I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it.
I feel like I have a pretty normal social life. I’m a young adult currently studying, with multiple solid friend groups, some people I’d even consider very close, and I’ve known some of them for years. We talk very often, and in group settings everything feels natural and fun.
But it’s extremely rare for me to have one-on-one conversations or hangouts with anyone. Even with people I feel like I click with, they don’t really message me individually or ask to hang out. When I try to start casual conversations (replying to stories, small talk, etc.), it usually just falls flat. And asking to hang out one-on-one feels weird, like we’re not even at that level.
It’s not just about hanging out either. People just don’t really message me personally at all. I’m almost never someone people just text to talk or check in with, which is what confuses me most. Especially because I can see those same friends having one-on-one friendships with each other.
I don’t think I come across as unfriendly, maybe a bit quieter or reserved, but we all get along well. I feel like I'm missing something.
Has anyone else experienced this? It bothers me a ton.
#relationships
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I’ve noticed this for a while and I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it.
I feel like I have a pretty normal social life. I’m a young adult currently studying, with multiple solid friend groups, some people I’d even consider very close, and I’ve known some of them for years. We talk very often, and in group settings everything feels natural and fun.
But it’s extremely rare for me to have one-on-one conversations or hangouts with anyone. Even with people I feel like I click with, they don’t really message me individually or ask to hang out. When I try to start casual conversations (replying to stories, small talk, etc.), it usually just falls flat. And asking to hang out one-on-one feels weird, like we’re not even at that level.
It’s not just about hanging out either. People just don’t really message me personally at all. I’m almost never someone people just text to talk or check in with, which is what confuses me most. Especially because I can see those same friends having one-on-one friendships with each other.
I don’t think I come across as unfriendly, maybe a bit quieter or reserved, but we all get along well. I feel like I'm missing something.
Has anyone else experienced this? It bothers me a ton.
#relationships
source
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