My fiancee and I are getting married this month. We met on…
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My fiancee and I are getting married this month. We met on a dating app. We still think the system is broken.
We got lucky. That's what we keep telling people and it's the truth.
We met on an app, talked for a while, went on a date, and somehow it worked. But looking back at the experience, both of us agree that the app had almost nothing to do with why we're compatible. It matched us based on photos and location. That's it. The fact that we actually work together as people was pure luck.
Since getting engaged we've talked a lot about this. She had hundreds of matches she never responded to because it was overwhelming. I barely got any and felt like something was wrong with me. We were on the same app at the same time in the same city and almost never found each other.
That got me thinking. What if a site actually tried to figure out who you are before showing you to anyone? Not your photos. Not your bio. Who you actually are psychologically. Your ideas, style, how you handle arguments, what you actually need from a partner versus what you think you want.
I know eHarmony tried the questionnaire thing years ago but everyone I've talked to says it felt outdated and corporate. And the newer apps just went full shallow in the other direction.
Has anyone seen anything that's actually trying to match on personality and compatibility in a real way? Not just "we both like hiking" but actual psychological profiling? Curious if this even exists or if every app is just photos and location with a different coat of paint. I’ve been working on this for a long time.
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We got lucky. That's what we keep telling people and it's the truth.
We met on an app, talked for a while, went on a date, and somehow it worked. But looking back at the experience, both of us agree that the app had almost nothing to do with why we're compatible. It matched us based on photos and location. That's it. The fact that we actually work together as people was pure luck.
Since getting engaged we've talked a lot about this. She had hundreds of matches she never responded to because it was overwhelming. I barely got any and felt like something was wrong with me. We were on the same app at the same time in the same city and almost never found each other.
That got me thinking. What if a site actually tried to figure out who you are before showing you to anyone? Not your photos. Not your bio. Who you actually are psychologically. Your ideas, style, how you handle arguments, what you actually need from a partner versus what you think you want.
I know eHarmony tried the questionnaire thing years ago but everyone I've talked to says it felt outdated and corporate. And the newer apps just went full shallow in the other direction.
Has anyone seen anything that's actually trying to match on personality and compatibility in a real way? Not just "we both like hiking" but actual psychological profiling? Curious if this even exists or if every app is just photos and location with a different coat of paint. I’ve been working on this for a long time.
#relationships
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