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Daughter moving home from college
Daughter moving home from college
I (M, 42) have a 19 year old daughter moving home from college. I'm a single father and I love my daughter more than I could put into words.
When she first went off to college i struggled with her not being home, but she was only 2 hours away so I could visit frequently. As much as I hate to say it I quickly got used to living by myself, as did she. Here's the problem, I felt a lot of guilt about not being with her mother and her mother living 12 hours away although that was all her mother's choice. I never wanted to be a single father. Due to the guilt I feel about her mother not being present i struggle with telling her no, making her work, contribute around the house etc.
I work 60 hours a week and am exhausted most days, especially after maintaining a home etc. I told my daughter she has to work this summer, a close to full time as possible. My question is what is reasonable to ask her to contribute around the house? I don't expect her to contribute to bills, but is it acceptable to ask her to pay her own insurance, gas and maintenance on a car I bought her? What should I expect for her to contribute as far as chores around the house? I moved out the day I turned 18 and had essentially no help from my parents other than the occasional "do you want to come over for dinner". I worry I have created an entitled monster who feels above household chores and full time work.
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Daughter moving home from college
I (M, 42) have a 19 year old daughter moving home from college. I'm a single father and I love my daughter more than I could put into words.
When she first went off to college i struggled with her not being home, but she was only 2 hours away so I could visit frequently. As much as I hate to say it I quickly got used to living by myself, as did she. Here's the problem, I felt a lot of guilt about not being with her mother and her mother living 12 hours away although that was all her mother's choice. I never wanted to be a single father. Due to the guilt I feel about her mother not being present i struggle with telling her no, making her work, contribute around the house etc.
I work 60 hours a week and am exhausted most days, especially after maintaining a home etc. I told my daughter she has to work this summer, a close to full time as possible. My question is what is reasonable to ask her to contribute around the house? I don't expect her to contribute to bills, but is it acceptable to ask her to pay her own insurance, gas and maintenance on a car I bought her? What should I expect for her to contribute as far as chores around the house? I moved out the day I turned 18 and had essentially no help from my parents other than the occasional "do you want to come over for dinner". I worry I have created an entitled monster who feels above household chores and full time work.
#relationships
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