How to keep conversations reciprocal? Hello! Recently a…
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How to keep conversations reciprocal?
Hello! Recently a close friend of mine, who imo is an amazing conversationalist, told me that I have a tendency of talking “at” people, rather than “with” people, and I think he is right (this is a very close friend who’s opinion I respect). I find it difficult to keep asking people questions without changing the topic, which means that whenever there is a moment of silence I tend to go on a tangent instead of thinking of how to create an opportunity for others to speak. Also, sometimes I don’t know when/how to ask people about recent events in their life or something they’ve shared with me. I have adhd, and I have attended adhd skills therapy, but they’ve never taught me this.
I often find myself just asking people how they are doing, and then not knowing where to proceed from there, other than sharing how I am doing. I think getting better at this would help me form deeper friendships. I have the same issue when texting too - sometimes it takes me over an hour to think of something insightful to ask after the initial couple of texts.
Does anyone have a advice to keep the other person talking in conversation, so that it feels more reciprocal?
#relationships
Hello! Recently a close friend of mine, who imo is an amazing conversationalist, told me that I have a tendency of talking “at” people, rather than “with” people, and I think he is right (this is a very close friend who’s opinion I respect). I find it difficult to keep asking people questions without changing the topic, which means that whenever there is a moment of silence I tend to go on a tangent instead of thinking of how to create an opportunity for others to speak. Also, sometimes I don’t know when/how to ask people about recent events in their life or something they’ve shared with me. I have adhd, and I have attended adhd skills therapy, but they’ve never taught me this.
I often find myself just asking people how they are doing, and then not knowing where to proceed from there, other than sharing how I am doing. I think getting better at this would help me form deeper friendships. I have the same issue when texting too - sometimes it takes me over an hour to think of something insightful to ask after the initial couple of texts.
Does anyone have a advice to keep the other person talking in conversation, so that it feels more reciprocal?
#relationships
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