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Question about a family argument and islam
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Assalam alaykum,
My parents and I got into an argument, it started with me sitting in the living room at night, not knowing my sister and mother were in a problem, this caused my mother to lash out on me and start an argument on how she feels tired and we are being useless. The issue escalated when she started attacking me personally with her words mentioning 2 points that hurt me; how I dont study (even though I am expecting 90 inshallah for tawjihi) and how I don't have friends (this hurt the most cause its not the first tike she brings it up and each time I say I like to keep my friend groups small)
After the argument once she said those two points I stood up and left saying "allah la iysamhik" to her before going to bed
Fast forward 4 days, my father and mother sit me down to talk. I was very open minded and had no issues to try and resolve this. I started by apologising for saying "allah la iysamhik", once i apologised they started ranting and talking saying I was fully in the wrong. They kept talking not letting me speak, after a while I got mad and asked if I will hear an apology as well or if this is just a rant session I am forced to hear..., it escalated and my father took my mother's side and I left the conversation with them mad and shouting saying im "assee walidayn"
I ignored them for couple of days, today however my father sat me down on the table, he kept provoking me to make me try and talk to my mother, he told me to give her something which I refused saying she isn't talking to me and I am not talking to her, my father then went ballistic and furious and started ranting on how im not a good son, when I replied saying "they arent above islam and islam tells us that the oppressed defends themselves from the oppression and that islam doesn't tell us to blindly let our parents walk all over us that he went silent, once i said that if the prophet apologised to people why dont they for they arent above the prophet is when my father went mad again. He pulled me, screamt at me and kicked me out of the house (still fresh kick, so i am not sure what will happen at night)
I just want to know, am I in the wrong, and in the future can I cut them off completely for my sanity,
I just need to know الله isn't mad at me because of this,
#religion
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Assalam alaykum,
My parents and I got into an argument, it started with me sitting in the living room at night, not knowing my sister and mother were in a problem, this caused my mother to lash out on me and start an argument on how she feels tired and we are being useless. The issue escalated when she started attacking me personally with her words mentioning 2 points that hurt me; how I dont study (even though I am expecting 90 inshallah for tawjihi) and how I don't have friends (this hurt the most cause its not the first tike she brings it up and each time I say I like to keep my friend groups small)
After the argument once she said those two points I stood up and left saying "allah la iysamhik" to her before going to bed
Fast forward 4 days, my father and mother sit me down to talk. I was very open minded and had no issues to try and resolve this. I started by apologising for saying "allah la iysamhik", once i apologised they started ranting and talking saying I was fully in the wrong. They kept talking not letting me speak, after a while I got mad and asked if I will hear an apology as well or if this is just a rant session I am forced to hear..., it escalated and my father took my mother's side and I left the conversation with them mad and shouting saying im "assee walidayn"
I ignored them for couple of days, today however my father sat me down on the table, he kept provoking me to make me try and talk to my mother, he told me to give her something which I refused saying she isn't talking to me and I am not talking to her, my father then went ballistic and furious and started ranting on how im not a good son, when I replied saying "they arent above islam and islam tells us that the oppressed defends themselves from the oppression and that islam doesn't tell us to blindly let our parents walk all over us that he went silent, once i said that if the prophet apologised to people why dont they for they arent above the prophet is when my father went mad again. He pulled me, screamt at me and kicked me out of the house (still fresh kick, so i am not sure what will happen at night)
I just want to know, am I in the wrong, and in the future can I cut them off completely for my sanity,
I just need to know الله isn't mad at me because of this,
#religion
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