Should I give up apps or try all of them? 39M4F. I've…
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Should I give up apps or try all of them?
39M4F. I've dabbled with okcupid for about 6 months now. Haven't tried the premium version. I thought my profile was okay. It says I have a bunch of likes but I can't see them and suspect they're mostly bots. I'm very thoughtful with my swipes and probably only swipe right on about 10% of profiles. I usually send a short, thoughtful/humorous message with each like. I've received a grand total of ONE match/response, which in retrospect I suspect was a scammer (I gave "her" my number and soon began getting spam calls).
I live in a town of about 20k that's about 50 miles from a major metro, so pretty much all my swipes are 25+ miles away. I know this sucks, lol, but I'm willing to commute if I see potential in someone.
I guess I'm wondering if I'm just wasting my time or if I should double down, try more apps and/or pay for premium, despite the utter lack of attention so far. I don't want to waste my time/money. My confidence is fine, and I know these apps don't determine my worth, but I still hate the frustration of putting time into something that yields nothing.
Big picture, if women don't want to date, maybe we shouldn't be trying to date them? More of a shower thoughts thing, but my efforts might be misplaced in general. Is hetero dating even a thing anymore? (half kidding, but I feel this way sometimes)
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39M4F. I've dabbled with okcupid for about 6 months now. Haven't tried the premium version. I thought my profile was okay. It says I have a bunch of likes but I can't see them and suspect they're mostly bots. I'm very thoughtful with my swipes and probably only swipe right on about 10% of profiles. I usually send a short, thoughtful/humorous message with each like. I've received a grand total of ONE match/response, which in retrospect I suspect was a scammer (I gave "her" my number and soon began getting spam calls).
I live in a town of about 20k that's about 50 miles from a major metro, so pretty much all my swipes are 25+ miles away. I know this sucks, lol, but I'm willing to commute if I see potential in someone.
I guess I'm wondering if I'm just wasting my time or if I should double down, try more apps and/or pay for premium, despite the utter lack of attention so far. I don't want to waste my time/money. My confidence is fine, and I know these apps don't determine my worth, but I still hate the frustration of putting time into something that yields nothing.
Big picture, if women don't want to date, maybe we shouldn't be trying to date them? More of a shower thoughts thing, but my efforts might be misplaced in general. Is hetero dating even a thing anymore? (half kidding, but I feel this way sometimes)
#relationships
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